Relationship struggles after children

[Littlepeaa]

Struggling to be nice to my husband …
our baby is almost 2 years old. He’s super annoying in a sense that he’s messy, unaware of his surrounds, isn’t helpful unless i specifically ask him to do something (like seriously simple basic stuff)
am I just a bitch? Is he just a man?!
hes literally always stressed with work, works late on our dining table or our home office so I can see he is struggling sometimes.
maybe I’m a bitch: why do I find him so irritating.
he’s never not nice, he’s actuall always nice. He’s just 95% of the time in his own mind and therefor unable to be present in our homelife, now we have a baby- I find it just annoying and stupid.
I’d love to have a loving warm family for my baby, but I’m the one making it not nice.
does the “after baby” hatred for husband ever go?
:-(

"We need to talk"

Set aside a time to talk about this. He is probably struggling to meet your expectations and buries himself in work instead. You are struggling to look after your 2 year old with little support.

Be brave. Speak up. Set boundaries. Get counselling if you can. Fix this now otherwise it will go on and on.