Hi all
Old member but had to create a new account (penis beaker). Never thought I’d be back here again.
Twice now I’ve had money taken from my account (£9 each time) for a food delivery company. Last year when it first happened, I contacted them and they told me the account was in my 21 yo DS son’s name . I asked him to remove my details and there was no drama at the time.
Then last weekend it happened again. I stayed calm and just asked if he’d used my bank details. He said no, and that it must be from when I gave them to him ages ago for a taxi. I just said OK and left it at that.
When he came home later, he barely acknowledged me, just a nod. I went to his room, knocked, and even apologised.
He then went into a full rage, shouting that I don’t trust him. I said I wouldn’t engage while he was shouting, and he said he was leaving. He packed a bag and went.
Since then, he’s been texting saying we haven’t had a relationship for years, that he can’t talk to me, and that he’s going to his dad’s. He has also told his dad and others that I threw him out, which isnt true , I never did any such thing. This has completely blindsided me.
Only last week I was running around helping him with Vinted parcels while I should have been working, and picking him up whenever he asked. I’ve also sent him money whenever he’s needed it. I’m a single parent, but I earn a good wage and have always tried to support him.
He’s also been saying he hates his uni friends (people he’s known for years), coming home smelling of weed, and I’ve seen him in a car with someone I believe is his dealer. I did mention it, but calmly.
He used to be so loving, and now he looks at me like he hates me. I feel absolutely devastated. It honestly feels like a part of me has died. I know that sounds dramatic, but I just want the pain to stop and to know if this relationship can be repaired.
TIA of any advice