I’ve found out I’m pregnant in the last few days, completely unexpectedly. I’ve only been with my partner a few months so it’s very early days in terms of the relationship. I was taking the pill which I’ve not missed a day of and I’ve taken correctly so I’m not entirely sure how this has happened but he wasn’t using any protection. To be honest I feel a bit silly for not insisting that he did now but when I was diagnosed with PCOS back in my 20’s the consultant told me I’d be very unlikely to conceive naturally and that if I wanted children in the future I’d need to consider fertility treatment.
I just feel in a perpetual state of panic, I’m so overwhelmed at the thought of telling him and being pregnant in general, I’m not scared of him or anything and he’s a lovely person- I am in love with him but I guess I’m scared of his reaction. I know he wants a family- we discussed this on one of our first dates but equally not a few months in. I just feel at this point there’s so much on the line and I don’t want to lose everything.
In an ideal world I’d like to continue with the pregnancy and our relationship but I know he’s likely to have differing views and that’s before even thinking about the strain it would put on a new relationship. Up until now this was the best relationship I’ve ever had and now I feel like I’ve set us both up to fail even though realistically I know it’s not my fault as such I still feel really guilty.
I’d be really grateful for any words of wisdoms or advice anyone could offer because I’m so overwhelmed I can’t see the wood from the trees at this point.