June 2023, my abusive ex-boyfriend destroyed my friend's car out of jealousy, which I messed up by bringing her around after I told him she was someone I used to like but we decided we were better off as friends. He got mad because he was drunk and went crazy, told me not to bring her car over, then turned around and said it was fine, so she came. He acted normal at first, but once we got to the club, he got me mad because he brought me a drink I couldn't handle. I asked him if he wanted it, he said no, so l asked her and she said yes. He cussed me out in my ear. I went outside, and she overheard him telling my guy friend that he could have any chick with him.
My friend came outside and told me what he said. He came out, found me, pushed me to the ground, then left. That night he destroyed her car completely he even sent me a picture. I was hoping he didn't do it, but he did. The police came and asked me for the proof, but I said I didn't have it. She looked at me and said, "I know what type of friend you are. You can't see this man is crazy and you're whipped over him
I left her there and the next day I talked to her but I ended up blocking her the same day for two years because of him. I stayed with him even after he did that. He abused me for almost three years. I finally left him in December 2025. I sent my old friend a request on Instagram in November 2025, she accepted and even sent me one back. I messaged her saying hey, just checking in, wanted to see how she was doing. She said, "I'm good, thanks." I was so embarrassed because I didn't apologize, I didn't know how to approach her.
We haven't spoken since then, and I miss her every day. We did everything together. I'm so mad at myself for letting our friendship be destroyed. It's eating me up every day. Should I reach out again or leave it alone?