Baby with an ex?

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Has anyone actually done this?

I often see posts from single mums who’d like another baby but haven’t met the right partner, and are considering using a donor. Quite frequently, someone suggests having a baby with their ex so the child can have a full sibling.

I have to admit, this always sounds a bit wild to me! It gets suggested so often that it almost seems like a normal option but is it really something people do in practice?

Has anyone here gone down that route? Did your ex actually agree to have another child together for that reason? I can’t imagine many exes being on board with it, so I’m curious to hear real experiences if there are any…

Im an “ex” with penis - I would never ever agree to this - my female “ex” is an ex for some very good reasons - would absolutely never get involved again- let alone creating a new life that I would have legal - moral and financial commitments to.
not only that it would potentially jeopardise any future relationships I might have

I honestly think any man would be mad to agree to it. Be paying maintenance again for another child for the next 18 years!

The only man I’ve ever dated who had a young child with an ex
Stated that he’d always wanted children, but not with bloody her
I strongly suspect that many of them feel that way and the idea of another one is just not on the cards

I suppose it depends on the gap though doesn’t know if there’s a relatively small one doesn’t make a lot of difference and it might make the existing child that you have already created happy

For it to work it would need a very specific set of circumstances, can't see it working if the split wasn't completely amicable and a simple "better as friends" but still really close dynamic.
People are exes for a reason, the men especially i can't see signing up for another 18 years of financial commitment but likely little contact time.

An ex with whom you have a young child already, who has them 50/50 or thereabouts, is in a strong financial position and loves being a parent and is on good terms with you might agree.
I think there is a chance mine would - but I don't want a second child so I am not asking him 😅