A senior colleague of mine is having an affair with a member of his team at work: it's become increasingly obvious over the last couple of years, and he's now separated from his wife and living elsewhere. Everyone knows, and it's quite embarrassing for him - not that he's noticed - because all the members of his team are laughing behind their backs about it. However, he (and his wife, who I know well) have said they're working on things, trying to avoid divorce, 'dating' each other again and that it's 'going well'. However I know that he's still spending all his time - every lunchtime - at work with the affair partner, coming to work in the same car and so on. I know it's not my marriage and not my place, but if I were her and I was telling people we were working on things and he was trying, I'd want to know if he was making a mockery of me behind my back... I can't work out if I just need to keep well out of it. I probably do. Would you want to know?