Coparents playing games?

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My narcissistic ex 'accidentally' packed his new girlfriends clothes in our sons suitcase when be brought him home ( a couple of tops) mistaking them for our sons because they are 'so small'. Our son is 2.
The rest of the case was a mess, rubbish in there etc so I pulled him up on it, plus our sons missing clothes etc and he said Im only nitpicking at him because Im annoyed that his girlfriends clothes were in there.
Why would he assume that and why would he put them in there? He said they must have been on the floor when he did laundry but they smell like they've been in a drawer for ages and were perfectly folded on top.
I couldn't give a rats arse about his new girl, Im annoyed that my sons stuff comes back and I have to clean it, fold it again, chuck rubbish out, wash etc.
However what do I do with her two tops? Slyly wanna chuck them why should I wash them and bring them back? 😂 Am I his girlfriends mum now too??

I wouldn't wash them but would hand them back as they arrived, best to give him no ammunition! If hes generally an arse I would assume he'd put them in on purpose.

Why do you provide clothes for your son to take? Doesn’t he have some for him?
anything like that in the future, I wouldn’t say anything as he’s only doing it for a reaction. Just pack them in the suitcase when he goes back to him.

If you don’t “give a rats arse” then why would you “slyly want to chuck them”?

Just leave them in the case and she can have them back next time. I find it completely plausible that he put them in by mistake. DH always puts stuff in the wrong drawers. I’ve pointed out that our tiny kids wouldn’t wear my vest tops in the past but he just saw a small black folded top and thought it belonged to a 5 year old cause it wasn’t his.

Yeah I stopped providing clothes very quickly. DS went in an outfit of mine and came back with a different top on one time (my top was casually handed back sopping wet as he'd made no effort to clean it) and then a few weeks later the bottoms came back the same. DS has been going in clothes he has brought for DS ever since.

Chuck her clothes in a bag and forget about them until next hand over then just give them back. No drama - nothing to beat you with - happy days

Because he’s a game playing bellend. Literally no other reason.

If he is doing it for a reaction, don't give him one. Return the clothes and don't send any in future. I keep a bag hanging by the door for anything DS wants at his dads house and we add to it as we go along. I do tend to have a clothes belong to kids mentality but i'm not dealing with a narcist.

My ex did this! Sent back some sports leggings worth £90 that were his mistresses! I sent a photo of them back to him and asked him to pay for postage for them to be returned as I didn't want them in my house. So weird!!!

Why can’t you have leggings in a bag waiting for next time the kids go? Weirder to go to the hassle of posting them, looking up how much they cost and asking for p&p 😂

To be fair, I would rather not have his girls stuff sitting in my place. Got nothing against her Im sure shes lovely but its the fact her stuff (and her hair) is in MY place because HE decided

I wouldn't wash them, I wouldn't chuck them and I wouldn't say anything at all. Reacting will just encourage him to do it more as he will feel he got to you. Just return them in the state they arrived in.

I don't want her legging in my house, he could have either paid for postage or I could have binned them. He only has them every other weekend so it's a long wait. I'm not convinced it was an accident as it isn't the first time he does something like this. Like the card he printed with a photo of his mistress in the background. He is just odd.