Twenty five years married, no affection, lonely and unsure what to do

[Lucyjet99]

25 years married this year and never felt so lonely. Any affection on his behalf stopped years ago and the only reason I stay is I have nobody and not in a good way financially. He gets drunk and turns very nasty with his words and im now like a different person. No confidence anymore and juat dont no what I can do.

I think from your post you know you have to leave OP. Take back some dignity, take back some self respect, do it for yourself.

I think your husband needs to control his drinking and deal with the issue of why he drinks.

If he makes you miserable leave him. You could get a job and take care of yourself. If you're married at least half equity would be yours.

Don't stay with a nasty, abusive drunk just because he is better than nothing! His attitude towards you is the reason you have no confidence.Prove him wrong, seek counselling to help build your self esteem and to give you the push you need to make a change. Start by prioritising yourself and focus on getting a job, even if it's something undemanding to begin with it will help you save some money so you can leave.

Being on your own is better than remaining with a nasty drunk to further undermine you as a person. You are alone in this marriage anyway and your marriage to him is over . Why stay and therefore further hang yourself by your own petard?.
He’s already sapped more than enough of your come already, a process that will continue if you stay.

You know this is a problem otherwise you would not have posted. There is always a way out and you can and should divorce him.

That sentence should say he’s already sapped more than enough of your confidence already.

I think the question you ought to ask yourself is how many more days, weeks & years do you want to spend feeling like this? Everyday is a blessing don't waste it carrying on being in this miserable existence.
Being alone would be better than tolerating him and his drinking coupled with his abusive words.
Overtime living in dysfunctional relationships we lose ourselves, it becomes the daily normal decline that turns in to years.
You can be so much happier and everyone deserves to be!