Is it weird

[SunnyDelights]

Is it weird to be in your 30s and not had sex in 10 years? Im not Asexual, I just don’t feel ready yet after previous relationship, is this weird? It’s weird right 10years ? Or is anyone else in this situation? Should I just force myself back out there?

Regret wasted years? I don’t know? I don’t know anyone in my situation so I worry I may be missing out

How would those years be wasted, though, if you didn't want to have sex during them and you didn't have sex during them?

Nowt’s weird in love and war. Plenty of people have been celibate for that long while married.

Yeah maybe but I view that differently personally. Im single so it seems like I should be out there having fun

It's interesting reading your responses, OP, because there's nothing really tangible that you're missing out on other.than memories of specific acts with specific men and orgasms.

You could have those with random men and ONSs or a fwb butnyoue not interested in that - which is absolutely fine!

If you don't want to date, then don't.

But the language - missing out, should be having fun, might regret it... I'd unpick why you feel that way tbh.

I'd probably have a look at some therapy. Not to change your mind but to unpick how you actually really feel, address any issues from your previous relationship that might bbe impacting on this and then just carry on as you are . If you meet someone worth dating at some point, then great! And you'll be in a good place to do so. But I wouldn't be in too much of a rush to change things if you're actually OK with it.

I found this interesting
https://apple.news/AtiNpbO0EQ4qLXuNfMubf_Q

Can’t read that as behind a paywall - but I’m intrigued what happens to those people that have never had sex?

in a nutshell
“It can potentially lead to emotional and physical effects, including:
Change in hormones
Decreased longevity
Vaginal pain
Low mood ”