My partner and I had an argument over the phone. It was the first argument that we had. I explained the following morning how I felt but have not heard from since except once when my daughter contacted him to let him know I was sick. He asked if I was okay, wished me well and said he wasn’t in the mindset to talk. We have not spoken in three weeks.
To provide context, he may have undiagnosed ASD: he has a strict adherence to routine, an intense interest in exercise, has sensory issues to textures, colours, patterns and has a very restricted diet. He is OCD when it comes to cleaning. I’m the opposite: spontaneous, colourful, my life is a kaleidoscope of colours and tastes. Yet, I’ve made some changes to accommodate him as I want him to feel comfortable in my home but sometimes it doesn’t feel enough as every time he visits there’s some criticism.
I think I know what the answer is, but it pains me to bring things to an end when there have been genuine moments of connection, not only as a couple but as a family. Not sure how long to wait as this could go on for months. Would be interested to know what other people’s experiences of being shut out, what worked for them.