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OrangeOctopusEyes · 17/03/2026 19:49

Been with DP for 6 years. For the last year have been separated but co parenting (2 young dc). He’s moving house, his has sold but new one hasn’t gone through yet. He asked if he could keep some bits here whilst waiting for the new house to go through, I said no because I’m trying to keep boundaries the clear, he’s proceeded to just move back in! We have been getting on well recently but only as parents, I wouldn’t say in a romantic capacity. Things I’ve noticed that bother me are that he does seem to subtly put me down quite a lot, he’ll make comments about the condition of my home, or my appearance. If I get dressed up to go out he won’t ever comment that I look nice. We’ve had sex twice in 2 years. Not really sure what I’m asking here, I just feel like i’m watching my life unfold from above? Totally detached? theres lots more to it but I don’t want to waffle more than I have already…

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category12 · 17/03/2026 19:56

I'm confused - are you living together as a couple again - or just sharing the house until he buys?

CaffeinatedSeagull · 17/03/2026 19:58

Why has he moved back in? If his has sold, presumably he has no involvement (not on deeds or mortgage for yours) so has no automatic right to do that.

Anonanonanonagain · 17/03/2026 20:10

You say your DP so you are actually together and having a trial separation but he moved back in?

OrangeOctopusEyes · 17/03/2026 20:18

It’s my house. He hasn’t asked me, he just bought all his stuff back and has moved himself back in. We are separated I would say yes, but have been spending time together with the kids passed few months.

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category12 · 17/03/2026 20:23

If it's your house legally, then why did you let him in, much less let him move in? Why are you being so passive about it? You don't have to let him walk back in and let him denigrate you.

If it's your house, you can lock him out and dump his stuff on the doorstep.

OrangeOctopusEyes · 17/03/2026 20:29

it took so much to get him out the first time, so i think im probably just letting it all happen because i know how awful it’ll be if i put up a fight. I’m struggling mentally currently and honestly just have not got the energy for it, he must have no respect for me at all to place what is convenient for him above my feelings and how it could affect me

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Seaoftroubles · 17/03/2026 20:32

Why have you let him take advantage of you like this? You are letting him walk all over you OP! Just tell him to pack up his stuff and leave. It's your house and he has no right to be there if you are supposed to be separated.

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