Would you want to know if your partner had a one night stand?

[Robertaa277]

Would you want to know if youre partner had a one night stand in a perfect scenario where it never happened again. And he fellt really really guilty and horrible after it happened. And was a really good caring partner apart from his one mistake.

Yes, i'd want to know, so i could leave the relationship. There is never any excuse for cheating.

If i never found out I guess I wld never be. Hurt

I would want to know so I could make an informed decision, whether that would be forgiveness would entirely depend on circumstances and remorse

Yes so I’d have agency over my decisions about my future

Yes so I could leave.

What’s a perfect scenario

Yes. I'd want to know. I'd deserve to make an informed decision about what happens next.

To me it wouldn’t be “one mistake” and it would be a deal breaker.

“What you don’t know can’t hurt you” doesn’t apply to chlamydia.

Same. It isn't one mistake, it's a series of choices to not back away when you clocked that your were attracted to someone.

So you want to know if you should put up with a cheating bastard who doesn't honour your relationship.

get rid!

Guilt and sorrow after the fact doesn't mean squat.

Oh, yes, yes, in there," said Toad impatiently. "I'd have said anything in there. You're so eloquent, dear Badger, and so moving, and so convincing, and put all your points so frightfully well—you can do what you like with me in there, and you know it. But I've been searching my mind since, and going over things in it, and I find that I'm not a bit sorry or repentant really, so it's no earthly good saying I am; now, is it?"

Kenneth Grahame - Wind in the Willows

@Robertaa277 yes I'd want to know so u could get an still test and leave you for someone who respects me enough not to put my health at risk, take my choice away from me and most importantly not expect me to stay in a relationship built on a lie

Loving someone and cheating on someone are both choices. Sometimes one is easier than the other, but trust always has to be king. I would want to know - my greatest fear would be living a lie with someone who does not respect me, or our relationship. If you truly and genuinely love a partner, cheating does not enter your head. So, if someone did that to me I would a) definitely want to know and b) never be able to trust them fully again no matter how sorry they claimed to be x

Of course. Trust is the foundation of a relationship. I have implicit trust in my husband and vice versa.

Guilt and regret mean diddly squat. And ‘feeling really horrible’. Boo fucking hoo. No excuses.

The amount of effort someone has to go through to have a one night stand - flirting, going to a bedroom, taking clothes off, intimacy - and never once thinking about their partner or stopping before it went too far means that no matter how guilty they feel afterwards wasn’t a concern to them before or during the act, which is why I’d leave them.