Utterly heartbroken

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Just that, utterly heartbroken, discovered DP cheated, and I have moved out of our home . He is very upset but not trying to reconcile. I cracked and even asked if wanted to meet up but he said it would be too hard for me, he caught an STI, that’s how this came to light. I know that he is awful for doing this to me but god I didn’t see it coming. Feel like I’m never going to feel happy again, this ended about 2 weeks ago. Please remind me I won’t feel like this forever 😣

OP. I’m so sorry. What an awful thing to happen. Are you somewhere where you’re getting support?

So sorry OP. It won’t always feel like this though I promise. My DB’s wife cheated on him a year into marriage (they’d been together 8 years overall) - he fell apart, but put himself back together again, is now with a lovely partner, they have one DC and another on the way. Sending you strength, I hope you have people to lean on in real life.

I have had to move home with my parents, we were together for 5 years

That shit! Im sorry youre going through this op. You know you deserve better. Its raw atm 2 weeks is nothing, in 2 months you'll be feeling different again and in 2 years you'll be well over it. Can you book a weekend away with a friend? Something to look forward to?

That’s very crappy! Do you know why he cheated? Is he unhappy, sex obsessed outside of his relationship, something else? It’s hard to forgive and / or forget, but you need to look after yourself here, it’s hard to forgive and forget x

It was a one night stand. We were happy, he kept it from me for months and months. Just impulsion I suppose, just a character trait he sadly has and I’m paying the consequences for 😣

An STI ! What a pos.

A in the long run cheating is a blessing in disguise. Not married yet etc. Karma taking the trash out.

Cry it all out petal. F him !

yes the feeling won’t last forever, if it’s a character trait it’s unfair of him to enter monogamous relationships. You will find someone much better in time, keep going forwards and don’t look back x

Hope you’re okay. Have you any children? Do you own or rent your home?

It won’t just be a one off, he’s been forced into confessing the bare minimum. Run a mile! This is blessing in disguise! Especially if you’re not married and don’t have kids!

The likelihood of it just being the once is tiny. It will get better.

I'm sorry OP. You're right though, what's raw as hell now will be something you'll one day look back on and be thankful you're out of. It will take a long time though, and it's hard to not feel as though you've wasted a big chunk of your life.

You say he kept it secret and that he'd caught an STI. I hope you've been checked out and had treatment if necessary.

Well done for being strong and ending things. You're worth so much more and things WILL get better.

So sorry OP, so tough, especially to find out this way. I presume he told you he had caught an STI so at least owned up to that. Unless of course you found out yourself from symptoms?
Just take one day at a time now, it will be painful for a while but remember if he's cheated once he could do it again, and indeed may have done so more than once despite what he said. It will hurt yes, but in the long run you are better off out of it. Look after yourself, and well done for ending things, you did the right thing.

We’re not married and we don’t have kids. He has blocked me now as I was sending a lot of angry messages. Just feel horrendous today