Harassment & moving house
hi all ❤️ I shall try and keep it short!
I dated someone and asked for a Clare’s law as I have previous DV relationship. It came back and he was under bail (now scentenced from his ex relationship- treated to kill and assault) I broke it off immediately.
that was over a year ago and I stayed no contact or I would call the police. It went back and forth and then petered off and I blocked him from everything. I haven’t replied to anything in over a year.
then he used a different number to contact me and send messages/missed calls. Went through my
business webpage to email me as his email was blocked etc.
we were only seeing eachother for around 6 months. I reported it to the police and they asked me at the time if I wanted to file for harassment but I didn’t want any of it so declined.
a few months passed and he rang and messaged again so reported to the police.
Ive had nothing until last week (only
realised yesterday as I’ve not been checking social media etc) where he used a different user name and message requested on instagram. The messages aren’t malicious but emotionally trying to reel me in.
i reported to the police last night and thought nothing of it as last time they didn’t even acknowledge. But the police rang me today and said as it’s been more than 6 months I can’t press a harassment charge. But I disclosed that while he got up for the toilet in the night, as he climbed back into bed he tried to put his hand into my underwear- they said I can charge sexual assault by touching and being the harassment under that too, or I can look to get a non mol order.
i want to move home. He knows where I live, I have a little one (he never met etc) but I think the house holds too many memories.
im worried that if I file sexual assault it’s going to feel like everything has been sown out of proportion and might have him show up at my door.
but now im on edge because of the contact.
so i think im ready to move but have no idea where to move to, i dont think down the road will
cut it so would mean me moving the little ones school and a fresh start. And I wouldn’t know anyone. I’ve been thinking of moving on and off for a while but think this has given me a budge.
please. Any advice welcome. With insight into pressing charges. How you’ve moved before for a fresh start. Anything xx