Help please, am i being menopausal

[Easylife1]

Hi, I’m not sure where to start, i’m mid 40’s and I don’t know if my issues are me being menopausal, normal or I need help! My DH and I have been married for 19 years, he has ED problems which means our sex life is non existant, which I can cope with but he is not affectionate at all with me. He’s been moody lately and it seems I can do nothing right but I don’t know if that is me being hormonal and oversensitive, I wonder sometimes if I am too selfish and I don’t think about him enough as a partner especially when it comes to decisions on our teen kids. Am I overreacting? Is it me? We aren’t great at discussing feelings/sex…

No-one else can tell you what he's thinking and feeling. You need to talk to him and be honest about how you're feeling and what you want. Couple's counselling can help you both work through your issues and communicate.

Being a similar age to you, I agree it is a difficult period. My hormones are all over the place, and my teenagers don't make it any easier, and my husband is also feeling the strain. Apparently, being in your 40’s it is (on average) the least happy time of our life. I really hope it doesn't get worse.

Is husband is also going through something? Physical signs like these might point to stress or depression, and if he is more moody then normal maybe he is struggling. I would definitely try and talk to him and just ask him if all is ok. If he is struggling he may not want to be affectionate, he may need someone to talk to.

I would really think about counselling (couples are individual).

I wonder sometimes if I am too selfish and I don’t think about him enough as a partner especially when it comes to decisions on our teen kids.

Can you elaborate on what you mean by this? It’s usually the other way round — wives feeling overburdened by the life admin.