Marriage advice

[NikNak03]

Myself and my husband have been together since we were 17 now 29 married just over a year. We moved away from all friends and family just after we got married to give our kids a better life due to affording rent etc. hes the sole income provider

The last few weeks ive been feeling a bit distant from him no particular reason i just find his mood is constantly unhappy we do have a stressful life tbf but i do almost everything for him. I do love him i just dont know anymore. If i speak to him somehow its my moods and feelings that makes him look bad. I just feel like i need a break but dont know how to or do it with us having to live in the same house as our children are here.
I just feel like he doesn’t consider my feelings and respects. Todays moment was him telling me that the money he had spare (approx £180) he spent on unnecessary stuff so cant get me a mothers day gift now unless i pay for it. Seems petty but pretty much always happens and he will be the first to give me a list of overpriced things that i save and buy. Im just feeling a bit lost
Any advice id greatly appreciate vent over haha

How old are your children?
what has the £180 been spent on?

How old are DC? Why don’t you work?

2&7 my sons got adhd and is so in and out of school unpredictably made it impossible so had to leave work

2&7 and literally stuff for his snake like plants and just crap he generally didnt need as it was already set up he just fancies the change

It’s horrible feeling unappreciated. I think the hardest time in family life is when you’ve got kids under age three.

You sound lonely … do you have friends in the new neighbourhood you moved to?

Makes sure you’re getting some time away from the kids - you’ll both appreciate each other more. Perhaps you could take the kids and stay with your family over Easter (with or without your dp)a? Having a change of scenery might help

I would feel under appreciated too in this instance, it’s not an insignificant amount of money! Not excusing him at all but if your son has ADHD could your husband too? Asking as my husband has adhd and it definitely affects his ability to think ahead, and prioritise money. That’s not an excuse though

Thank you, i do go to the gym on Wednesdays for an hour alone but that’s it. I went out shopping alone Friday evening and he lost his mind i didnt want him to come because i just wanted some space

It is a strong possibility im dignosed myself but ive learnt to control mine. I just frel like im talking to a wall atm

Yes I actually take back my last post and the question looks like it’s excusing him and I don’t mean that at all.

My only advice I think is to have a proper conversation with him about how you’re feeling