Confused

[LA1988]

Been dating a guy for the last month. We've had 3 amazing dates. Hes been consistent with communication like texts & calls. All postive. Tuesday night he asked if he could see me wednesday afternoon but come to my house. I said that was fine. We carried on talking, again all postive. Tuesday night ended the conversation with our usual good night messages. Wednesday morning he didnt text me good morning like he usually does so I waited a while then messaged him "good morning" at 11am. He never read it or replied which was odd because he usually replies within minutes. I got on with my day & thought I'll give him some space. Its now friday & he still hasnt read my message or replied & I dont understand why so about 4ish today I sent a check in message "hey havent heard from you since Tuesday. Hope your ok" again hes not read it or replied. Im really confused about what has happened for him to suddenly act like this when its been so great & positive. Any advice?

In the past with friends who have experienced this, I would have given benefit of the doubt but I now know, realistically you’ve been ghosted as this is what happened in every one of the scenarios my friends had. Sorry, also what a knob.

Three dates is not a relationship so all this wondering is a bit out of place from my perspective. You should be dating other guys as well, not just one. You are a single lady so act like it.

He is not reading or replying to your messages in days, that means he doesn't want to. Though I understand you wondering WHY, does it really matter? The end result is the same - the situation is at a standstill. I strongly suggest you not put anymore energy into this and investigate other opportunities. If he should show up again and you want to be bothered with him, then do so. If you don't that's fine too. If you never hear from him again, that's fabulous as well because he is just some guy you met and went out with a couple of times. Shrug.

You’ve been ghosted. This isn’t a relationship and sadly he’s not interested in you. Block and move on. And if you don’t block and he pops back up in days or weeks with a stupid excuse, know that you’re a back up plan because someone else has ditched him.

The strange part was he said on Tuesday night if I was to ever get bored of him or want to disappear then to tell him before hand because he hates the whole ghosting trend. I said the same & he said "im not going anywhere. I do really like you"

It should not surprise you that someone was extremely positive and ever-so kind and attentive in the first few dates, @LA1988 . That is him (or anyone) trying to make you like him. I wouldn't take it as a point to rely on.

He did say he liked me & liked being around me. Thats why im so confused as to why say that/behave like that to then just ghost me when he hates the ghosting trend

I don't want to assume things, obviously I don't know him, or what is going through in his mind, but, are we really that surprised that he'd say those things on dates with a woman? Naturally he wants you to be conscious of him liking you, and if he is not against ghosting should he feel like doing it, he obviously wouldn't say that. Nothing is surprising about this. Not saying it is right, I would say the least anyone can do is just be honest and say that there is no spark, or something, just so everyone is on the same page. Ghosting is just so immature.
Whatever the case is, the reality is that he has gone unresponsive for days now, and if he was really interested, I'm sure he could find 5 minutes in his busy schedule to message you. You made an effort, reached out to maybe bridge over this period of silence, still nothing. So at this point, I don't think you should lose sleep over his actions...or non-actions in this case.

Sorry OP but you’ve been ghosted. He’s probably been on other dates and decided to pursue someone else.

It’s a crap way to treat you but don’t message him again. And if he reappears in a few weeks, dont respond

I had a few dates before him. The usual one date & it didnt go any further so was being cautious because I didnt think it would get as far as 3 dates & lots of consistent communication. I may have believed slightly it might work out this time especially when he said he hated the ghosting trend & wouldnt do that but I guess its lesson learned. Dont believe anything they say

Well, when it comes to dating, my understanding is that in the early days of dating everyone would try to look like a better version of themselves, but I wouldn't say never to trust anything anyone would say.. It's also worth noting that just because the previous person lied, it has nothing to do with the next person, it is not their fault. And yes, even if we are talking about 3 or 5 people. The next one will have nothing to do with them,