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Still stuck in limbo

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Wtffruit · 06/03/2026 21:57

I wil try to keep this short and I'm looking for some words of support as I don't have anyone irl I can talk to.

I've been separated for 3 years and in this time, ex husband and I have repaired our relationship to the point of co-parenting well and being friendly enough so that it feels like we are family relatives - which we undeniably are given we have DC together. Whilst I am grateful we co-parent well, I know I am trapping myself in some state of expectation that everything might go "back to normal". It never comes and there's no sign of any type of real conversation about the future by which I mean either finalising the divorce or going back to trying again for the marriage. It does pain me though I don't have many people around me so it is a small comfort that ex and I are still friendly.

Is anyone in a similar situation or have been in the past? How do you manage and have managed to get over it?

OP posts:
itsnotalwaysthateasy · 06/03/2026 22:00

I really think you need to let go of this relationship, build up enought money to find your own place. Stop torturing yourself with what might have been.
Come on girl, find your inner warrior.

Endofyear · 06/03/2026 23:42

How and why did you separate? Do you want to get back with him? I think it's great that you have a good co-parenting relationship but I also think if he wanted to be with you, he would have done something about it. Maybe it is time you finalised the divorce and moved on.

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