he broke no contact calling me

[SODAhyun]

So I need to share what happened last night because I'm still processing it.

A few months ago, I was the one begging him to stay. He blocked me everywhere and made it clear he never wanted to talk to me again. I respected that and went no contact.

Then, out of nowhere, he started reaching out again. I didn't reply for weeks. Until last night , when he reached the point to call me.

And what happened on that call completely flipped everything I thought I knew.

He spent an hour begging me to be his friend (almost forcing me). He even said he wanted to come under my house without me knowing . He compared me to his current girlfriend (yes, the one he left me for) saying that she’s more sweet . And then, in the same breath, told me to move on and find someone else.

I said to him that i didn’t want him in my life and that he’s nothing for me and he kept saying that he can’t believe that.

So why he did this? I am sure that he is not over me and maybe after i said that i don’t want him anymore he will start to understand that

Just block him everywhere. He wants the attention presumably. The grass isn't greener

Come on woman, take control here.
Block him, shut him down.
Stop wasting time in him.
Move on.

@SODAhyun "So why he did this?"

It's classic, a powerplay, he wants to keep you dangling!!

Stay strong lovely, he's totally playing you, if you're feeling, in the least bit tempted block him everywhere and move on, for your own sanity. 🌸

Don't be flattered by his behaviour.

look at him in the cold light of day, he's a manipulative lying cheat.

that should tell you all you need to know. Stop ruminating about why he behaves as he does, why should you care what he thinks says or does - not your circus, not your monkeys as they say.

I suppose he wants to keep you as a back up incase his new relationship doesn't work out. Block all the way.

Who cares why he did it?

Just block him and move on.

Don't waste your time trying to analyse what he's thinking - this is what he wants. He's playing mind games with you for his own amusement.

He can't force you to be his friend. You don't need friends like him. Just block him and move on with your life.

It doesn't mean anything - you need to block him. Don't waste time "processing it"

My guess is that he'd had a row with his GF, had a fair bit to drink & decided that it would be a good idea to contact you as a back-up plan in case the current GF decided to end the relationship.

I suggest that you block him & move on.

Then, out of nowhere, he started reaching out again. I didn't reply for weeks.

How many weeks and what did you say when you replied?

Not that it matters really since hopefully you've blocked him now.

Block him.

He doesn’t want to be with you but he’d shag you because you provide him with an ego boost (wanting to be with him)

Don’t waste time energy and headspace trying to understand why a cunt acts like a cunt - you’ll twist yourself into a pretzel over nothing.

Just block and move on. Hrs not worth 5 seconds of your time

“TwistedWonder · Today 11:55
Don’t waste time energy and headspace trying to understand why a cunt acts like a cunt - you’ll twist yourself into a pretzel over nothing.
Just block and move on. Hrs not worth 5 seconds of your time”

@TwistedWonder has nailed it. This with bells on. “Why?” is always the wrong question. “Why?” just leads to excuses and wondering and trying to persuade yourself that the answer to “why?” will relieve your heartache and make everything okay. The correct questions are “what has he done?” and “how do you feel about it?” You know he’s bad news. There’s no big romantic denouement here. He cut all contact and left you for someone else when it suited him and now - like a true slimeball - he’s sniffing around you. This man will waste your heart and your time. He’s bad for you. Block him and keep him gone.

What a load of pointless ridiculous drama. How old are you both?

Just block him on everything and focus on your own life