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Sat here in tears he’s treating me like a mug

28 replies

Indieholic2 · 06/03/2026 08:11

Im questioning if I have just been putting up with a narcissist for the past 2 years

me and my partner got very rocky and I came home to my moms for the past 5 weeks we took a break from each other
weve been in contact daily and it’s been very up and down he’s been wanting to know my every movement and than blocked me because I went out for a night with my sister to let me hair down and turnt my mob of to have a night off from it all
we managed to get back on ok terms after a lot of apologies from my behalf though I question why I had to

anyway we was planning to reunite on Sunday and fix this all have a good chat and try again

anyway I go to sleep all content to be woken up at 4.30am to him liking all my old posts on insta I’m talking before we was even together post
and hearting a few old pics of me with men
2 in question are friends
and one was a ex boyfriend who I remained friends with and posted a video laughing with him years later
nothing was posted now these posts are all before I was with my partner

i did once tell my partner I didn’t want to post him on my insta wall as it was effecting my followers and I use instagram as a platform to work from
but I always posted him on my highlights and stories which are all saved and can be viewed
we argued about this back in September last year and he just got grumpy and removed my photo of his
and I didn’t mind

fb all said in a relationship
everyone knows we’re together
I didn’t see it such a issue
maybe I was wrong than i don’t know he’s got me questioning and overthinking everything atm

but regardless to this
hes now decided at 4am to heart these pics and block me on all social platforms
I don’t get why now
why not back in September

and than when i questioned him about it he had a go at me
I said we’re really arguing over posts I posted 3 years ago
we did this already
he has all his exs on fb I don’t care it’s just a social network so what
its so emotional and draining
hes now decided to leave me
cancelled our plans to meet Sunday and fix it
and said hope we can be friends

i am now crying my eyes out
trying to understand what’s just happened

ive had a month of mental abuse
sat in and been quiet dancing to his tune waiting for him to say what’s going on cos I made it clear I wanna try again he was like I don’t no what I want
yet wanted me to sit in and behave
I’ve just cracked with it all now

i feel I’ve had the piss taken out of me
i actually feel sick like im going to have a mental breakdown

everyone i know said to never go back he’s evil how he’s treating me

i don’t get what I’m getting out of posting this on here
i just want to talk to someone I am so devastated

OP posts:
Thelankyone · 06/03/2026 15:29

Do you understand why you’re so desperate to be with him you take abuse? What’s happened in your life that’s caused you to chose to behave like this? Have yoh suffered previous trauma or abuse?

Moonlightdust · 06/03/2026 15:59

OP cry tears of RELIEF that you will never have to see or hear from this coercive control freak again. Block and do NOT engage. EVER.

HootyMcB00b · 06/03/2026 16:15

Healthy relationships don't have this kind of drama in them. You've nothing to lose if you leave.

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