What would you do

[Lifeasitis91]

I recently found out that a friend of mine is in a relationship with a cousin of the man who murdered her cousin (her aunties son) 15 years ago.
The incident took place on a drunken night out, her cousin was attacked by 4 people and dies from head injuries and he left behind a 2 year old little girl and obviously destroyed the family.
Her and her partner met by chance, on a night out and she discovered this in January - they have been together since march 25.

She's not overly close to her family, however I don't see how you could move forwards knowing this information, I know it's not her partner's fault but logistics - what if they have children together, how would you bring his family and extended family together with yours knowing this information.
She said there have been some bumps in her relationship, but ultimately it's good and she doesn't want to loose him.

What would you do? Leave or stay or is it just an unfortunate set of circumstances?

What would you do? Leave or stay or is it just an unfortunate set of circumstances?

I don't really know why you're asking this as it's not your relationship and it wasn't your cousin who died.

But since you have, personally I'd stay if the relationship was good because none of us are responsible for what our cousins do, no matter how bad.

I’m sure he likely has nothing to do with the cousin in question if he’s in prison for murder? And it’s a sad state of affairs to start blaming people for things their cousin did, many many cousins aren’t even close at all to one another!

This sounds like a reverse .. are you actually the friend in the relationship? If not and you are genuinely as you say in your OP, then it’s really none of your business.

What would I do ? I would leave it to the people affected to make a decision . A cousin of the cousin , they may not even be in touch. Not your bag of monkeys really.

I was just curious as to what people would do - there's a bit of gossip within our friends at the moment.
No he's out, it was manslaughter and he done 9 years in total, she's been in the same room as him unknowingly obviously.
I know it's not her partner's fault but he's very close to his family and his cousin, like I said she's been invited to many family events. She did say she wouldn't attend now going forwards which I understand

And no it's not me -- it's just me and my DD