Should i be worried

[Kyle327]

Hey ive been in a relationship with my partner for 34 years,i asked to use her facebook to look on Marketplace,when i turned the internet on a message on FB popped up,what i seen made me look at it,but it was nothing to worry about,when you backspace it shows all messages & there was on from a Facebook user & says my partner deleted the message,i asked her about it but she said it was from an app for our sons school,..then after that she started taking her phone to bed at night,i asked why & she said to use the alarm on it but she has an alarm clock all ready,then came the weekend & she took to bed with her again,i asked why take it on the weekends & her reply was her phone charger was in the room,..this has never happened before,.i'm thinking she was cheating,am i right & do i have anything to worry about?

I take my phone to bed im not cheating. I think thats a bit odd to put those together. The user could of been anyone, you get a lot of oddballs on facebook who message as part of scams or whatever.

She's taking her phone to bed to stop you snooping. She is entitled to privacy, doesn't mean she's cheating

The girlfriend must be in her fifties, I can't imagine much worse than looking for a new boyfriend and contacting blokes.

It's normal for people to take their phones to bed.

Because us women in our 50s don’t date …

Anyway @Kyle327it seems a bit of a reach, how old is your child?

I'm sure they do, it just seems like slim pickings, to put it mildly, going by the threads about online dating. Can't imagine much less enjoyable things to do.

She's either hiding something or annoyed you were looking at her messages.

Exactly….mind you, if a woman suspected her partner was cheating, someone would say ‘have you got access to his phone OP?’ ‘Put an AirTag in his gym bag…’

What you described does not suggest she is cheating, to immediately go there is a stretch @Kyle327 . Unless there are other things to make you think that (her being away from home a lot, for example - but even that could have a perfectly fine explanation). I would ask myself where the lack of trust is coming from if i were you...

My guess is that she found it a bit intrusive when you started asking her questions about her personal messages and that's why she's started keeping her phone with her. But she could be having an affair I suppose. None of us can tell you for sure one way or another. What is your relationship like in general OP?

I reckon she’s trying to conceal her membership of a FB support group for wives of paranoid men.

She may have been up to no good, but i expect it is because she doesn't want you prying on her phone. I have nothing on my phone I wouldn't want my partner seeing, but I would also be p'd off if I found out he had been going through it.

You're being paranoid and intrusive. Stop snooping and leave the poor woman alone.

You interfered with her phone and she's pissed off with you. That's basically it.