Not sure what to make of relationship

[Stacy43]

I’ve been with my partner nearly 2 years. I live with my 2 children 16 and 10 he had a 15 year old child. My divorce recently came through. He’s been divorced 6 years. he has a high powered job but mainly wfh.
we see each other maybe twice a week.
i have spent time with his child twice and he spends time with my children as they live with me.
he comes from a large family his parents live 2 hours away.
i met 2 of his siblings.
we speak of marriage and that we’d like a child together.
However I do t feel part of his life. I would love to meet his mother go to her home and get a real idea of where he’s from.
But I do t feel like I can bring it up. I’m scared of being vulnerable by talking of it.
he told me his ex girlfriend never met any of his family because he knew deep down she wasn’t the one for him.
He is a Muslim though not practicing so maybe that has someone to do with it but I don’t know

I think the fact that you have been together for two years and feel unable to discuss the fact that you would like to meet his family is a bad sign. It doesn’t sound like you are particularly connected or close.

"Oi Bob, when are you going to introduce me to your mum? It's been 2 two years, what are you waiting for?"

If you can't say something this simple, you shouldn't even be considering having kids with the man.

He is unlikely to marry let alone have a child by a woman who is not Muslim. You are unlikely also to meet his parents. And do you want another child at all given the ages of your two?. They need you now more than ever.

You are being both used and future faked here by this man for his own ends . Be on your own with your kids, it’s far better than being badly accompanied.

I have to agree with pps here, @Stacy43 . If you are not able to have a conversation of that kind after 2 years, your relationship is not based on strong foundations. Someone is being lead on, and chances are, it's you. I am willing to bet that he just like with the ex-girlfriend, he is fully aware that he'll never get to that level with you. What is stopping you from talking about it with him? Is it your embarrassment (for some reason) or you knowing that he'd not be willing to have the chat? Either way it's no good, to be honest with you.

You are so far from talking about having a child together if you can't jump through such a low obstacle.