Feeling like I cant do anything

[Koalabear96]

So I'm just wondering i have a 2 year old, and myself and his dad are together but if I say I want to go for a day out while his dads at work he makes excuses for me not to and always says he wants to be there even when its just getting feet measured or feeding the ducks I feel like im going mad but this isn't normal is it?

Agree. You don’t have to tell him anything. He’s not your probation officer.

And he doesn’t just want to be a part of everything he wants to control and monitor your every move.

why do you text him and tell him what you’re doing? What would happen if you didn’t?

Would you be eligible for UC? Is it not possible for you to rent a small flat (one bedroom)? If your DS is 2 years what about nursery hours, so you could work? Is your DM able to look after DS so you could take a FT job?

Sorry, lots of questions for you to think about. You really are in a desperate position. I think you are in a financially and mentally controlling relationship. It's just not how you are portraying to others who could help you more.

Your child needs to go out every day for fresh air and exercise. If he stops this then it’s neglect for the child and not meeting the child’s needs. This is serious, disturbing, coercively controlling and illegal. Sorry you are stuck with him for the moment OP, plan your escape. I can’t believe how many women end up in relationships like this. Reach out for support.

He sounds quite scary and unlikely to let you go easily

Don't tell him you are going out with your son OP, no need to keep him informed of your every move. Don't tell him you are going out with your girlfriends either, just go! I hope the council house comes through soon as he sounds insufferable and is definitely controlling. I agree you should speak to Women's Aid for help and advice, especially when leaving him as that can be very difficult with a controlling partner.