Dating and intimacy

[spadess]

How many dates in do you normally sleep together these days? Im
50 and new to the dating world . Three dates in after a few weeks and we’re planning a night away this weekend. Too soon or normal ? I’ve never had a ons. I’m looking for something more than casual, less than marriage/ living together.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else does, or whats average, its about what works for you both. We were together about six months before we had sex, we had had weekends away before then though.

Sleep with him whenever you want. There’s no ‘normal’. Whatever feels right for you is fine.

I’m not on the dating scene but I was always a first date girl to be honest!

I don't know what is average, it's really about when you feel comfortable and ready and that's different for everybody. Have you had a conversation about what you're both looking for in a relationship?

If you’re comfortable, I would say 4th date is absolutely fine!

If you’re not comfortable then absolutely fine to wait. It’s all about what you want! If you want to tear his clothes off then absolutely go for it without worrying about number of dates or anything else

The only correct answer is when it feels right for both if you,

There's a lot of nonsense posted about dating ‘rules’ - all of which are made up for clicks and follows.

It really doesn’t matter if it’s after an hour or a month, if you want to then go for it

I’ve slept with men on the first date, one night stands, and waited a few dates. It all depends on what feels right for you. Just don’t be pressured into it. But I always say sooner is better incase the sex is terrible or his jimmy is too small or weird looking 😂😂

Do whatever you are comfortable with!
Have a nice weekend 😁

Haha! We’ve had a talk about us not seeing anyone else and also about what we’re looking for . I know that I don’t want a situation ship / FWB type thing but don’t want full partner/ marriage thing either. Somewhere in between. He’s very
much.. we’re a few dates in, im
so happy and feel
alive again and am excited to see how and where it will take us but his actions show consistency so far . I was dubious about his answer but I guess after a few dates, I’m not sure what certainty I was expecting

When i feel like it.

Ensure you book separate rooms so you have your own space but if you want to invite him to yours on the night you can do