To think it works both ways?

[snowydays99]

I have a friend, we used to be extremely close but as time went by we weren’t as close.
I used to support her through everything, help with money, help with childcare and lifts etc
I had two very close deaths in my family and my child nearly died and was diagnosed with a very complex disease.
She was nowhere to be found even though she knew about these things happening, didn’t offer any support so I backed off.
We started talking again about a year after all this happened, but once again it’s weekly woes from her about really mundane things latest one having a bad week as she had the kids off for half term and had to spend it with her children.
She’s mad at me as I haven’t been supportive this week, but I think why should I when I went through hell and she wasn’t there yet excepts me to go running after her when she wants.
Am I in the right or am I being petty?

Life is too short for this kind of silliness

Some people just want others to be scaffolding for them without having to give much back. I've had friends like that and eventually cut them off for good. I don't like being someone's resource for whatever.

Let her be mad. She'll pop up again in another year probably.

I think that’s what the issue is, I don’t want to be scaffolding for everyone else to drain myself when I get nothing in return anymore, didn’t even get offered so much as a cup of tea & a chat yet she’s expecting me to help out with taking her kids etc.
I will let this one go, life is to short:

We started talking again about a year after all this happened,

how did that happen?!

She asked for a lift to a&e and was desperate.

She contacted someone after a year of NC to ask for a lift to A&E? Bloody hell - does she have literally no one else in her life at all??

It’s completely one sided.
Let her go.

People are always so reluctant to break up with friends when friendships have run their course when they would not do the same with relationships etc. If she brings nothing to your life and drains you, then just phase yourself out of her life! You don’t owe her lifelong friendship just because you were once friends

she doesnt sound like a good friend. I got mentally ill and a lot of friends let me down

When she was mad at you, did you call out her hypocrisy explicitly?