Not sure she even likes me

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I am going through a really tough time atm as my husband told me recently he doesn't love me and I am facing divorce.
The issue is not my husband but my friend.
I have known her for 10 years, she is the only friend I have told about me getting divorced as it's hard for me to talk about.
She is not interested, when I first mentioned that me and my husband are not doing great, she changed subject as if I hadn't said anything, then on another occassion I mentioned having to look for a house for me and the kids and all she said was they are also my husband's kids.
At no point has she asked me if I'm ok or actually acknowledged the issue.
She only talks about herself, whenever I start saying something, she has to talk about herself, it's like she's comparing her life to mine, I'm not sure how to explain it.
We see each other all the time, I thought we were close but she is just not interested in whatever I say, it's always about her.
I'm fed up not being able to have a conversation with her because she will interrupt whatever I'm saying to tell me about herself over and over, I can't get a word in! I'm trying to talk about something and every time we end up talking about her!
Not sure what I want from this thread, please let me know your thoughts.

My initial thoughts are that she's having an affair with him! Probably far fetched, but I can't think of any reason why a good friend would be so disinterested. Hugs.

Yeah, I wondered if she knows your husband rather too well.

I'm sorry you're going through this, you need real friends to support. She's shown she isn't one, so I'd just bin her off.

Agree, it's a stretch but she sounds like she's on his side.

Yeah it sounds a lot like that!

If it's not then she sounds like she needs to be kicked out of your friendship.

I'm afraid I'm another one who would wonder just how close she is to your H.
Or how close she wants to be.

Sorry OP.but she is certainly no friend of yours.

Do yo have any other friends or family you can turn to for support?

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Is she friendly with your husband too? I wonder if she knows something (another woman?) and doesn't want to talk to you about this because she feels awkward? She doesn't sound like a good friend to be honest. I would back off if she's not supportive when you're having a difficult time. Do you have other friends or family to talk to?

She could be a bit friendlier with your husband than you’re aware of, or she could think that he’s being completely reasonable to leave you, or she could just be a bit of a shit friend; fine for superficial contact, but rubbish when you need support.

Essentially, she’s not giving you what you need from a friendship and it sounds like she’s making you feel worse than you already do. You’ve got a husband who’s already making your life difficult, you don’t need her doing it as well. I would strongly suggest that you distance yourself from her and maybe tell a few of your other friends. Support often comes from the most unlikely of places.

Somethings odd. I'd suggest having an upfront open honest conversation with your friend. If you have suspicions raise them in a loving way, not as an accusation.

OP has your friend always been like that,or has she become like that? That is something to consider.

Go by that then.If she has become like that ,then sorry but she may already know what's going on.

A real friend doesn't behave like yours,unless she has a guilty conscience or she's cold hearted.

Get rid of her!

I also thought this, sorry OP

Yes, my first thoughts too.

We see each other all the time, I thought we were close but she is just not interested in whatever I say, it's always about her.
Has she always been like this?

If not, and it's only when you are talking about your marriage, then I'd suspect her of being the other woman.

We see each other all the time, I thought we were close but she is just not interested in whatever I say, it's always about her.

Look back at the past 10 years. Was it actually always this way, but previously you didn't notice because you didn't have something important to discuss about yourself?

If so, she just sounds like a crap friend.
If this has only recently started, there might be something deeper going on between her and your husband.

Thank you to everyone that replied, the first post made me laugh, no, she's definitely not the OW.
I think she's always been a bit like this but I have never needed her support before, she is very fun to be with but she is one of those people who make everything about themselves and it's really draining me now. To be honest, I don't think she even realises that she does this and if I pulled back from her she'll be wondering why.
Thank you all for being there

If she keeps ignoring what you’re saying maybe she knows something about your husband and isn’t saying. Ask her.
I have a friend who interrupts me constantly to tell me something that’s going on in her life. I now quite loudly say um! And then don’t speak. Her husband has picked up on her doing this but he does it too.
it’s so frustrating I feel your pain. In saying that I know if I needed her she would be there.