Not sure where to post this so I'm posting here. Quick background is i used to be in a 50/50 coparenting situation with my dd (now 11), met my partner. All good. However the coparent is...not great. There isn't a better word for it. So contact reduced and reduced and has now ceased. Her choice. My dd also has medical issues, epilepsy and autism. So im a completely solo parent who works full time and deals with appts and whatever else without anyone to really ...help?. I dont live near family. Have freinds who have their own kids and families, they sometimes help out. Me and partner can't move in together as he has his dd 50/50 and lives 40 mins away. Both kids ND so wouldn't be ideal to mix them anyway.
Basically hit a point where we barely see one another, last week it was an hours cup of tea on an evening. Occasionally he or I will work through at one another's houses or hell stay over for the odd evening. We've been doing it like this for months now and if we have a disagreement or argument it ends up drawn out and difficult bevause most of our comms is over text by necessity. I dont know what to do. Nor does he. Weve done everything we can logistically. We've been together almost 6 years. I dont want to just jack it in but nor do I have a solution. Also despite having good freinds I feel really isolated in this experience. The responsibility and pressure of doing it alone while working is really hard. Harder than I imagined. Logistically, physically (I'm menopausal), emotionally. I was never a crier and i average at least twice a week now.
Maybe I'm just looking for a place to moan and vent. I tried to find local FB groups for single mums but they appear to be pretty dead. It's like a never ending hamster wheel of work, cook, wash, collapse into bed. Maybe someone who's been through this can offer a ray of light?