Do most people know what your partner earns?
My H used to have his own Business, at that time i worked pt and claimed tax cr..
My husband then got a salaried position and his earnings increased therefore the TC stopped.
I started to find things a bit difficult as my income dropped so i showed my H breakdown and he said looks like you are managing fine so nothing changed.
Over time i got in a mess had debts for long while but managed by doing Balance tfrs to mimimise interest.. then i utilised too much of my credit and couldnt do that so.interest got huge. I still continued to pay bills ok but felt a lot of worry.
I then suffered a health problem and was in chronic pain for 8 months. Eventually i confided in my Mum and my parents have helped me to sort some of it out. I havent told h.
My son is going to uni in october and i asked my h if he had a p60 yet as i will need income figs for application.. he said that i only need to tell his salary so i said ok is it the same as when you took the job and he said no i asked what salary is?.He then said he'd have to work it out but wasnt going to do it now.. i am a bit annoyed he got a payrise and never said and that hes been annoyed with me because ive had no spare money for the past 18 months.
I really dont know what to do or how to resolve this..i feel he is earning a lot more than me. I find it weird that finances are so separate. I dont want all this secrecy. ive asked about working together as a team but he just wont.
I feel stupid not knowing what he earns especially as there is a large amount od ot added.