Being in a family where others are NC

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It’s a bit shit isn’t it?

It looks like one of my siblings A is gearing up to cut the other B off completely. Tbh there will be some relief in not having to negotiate between them. I recognise the benefit of A waiting until both our parents are dead to do this too.

But it does have an impact. Incidentally I am not in touch with a former brother in law following a terminal row after being widowed of his brother. So I recognise that it sometimes happens. Still a bit shit.

It’s less shit than being in a family where there is constant tension and your family member is living with a lifetime of abuse.

It’s a bit like being the child in an abusive marriage. Some people think it would just be easier for the kids to stuff it all down and play happy families, but it’s not good for anyone to do that. The best thing is to get it out in the open, make a decision about the future of the relationship and move on. You see everyone separately and you work out who to invite to big events or you let them choose what they feel comfortable attending.

If you have a sibling who is being a jerk, I’d tell them to sort themselves out and stop being such an arse if they want to continue to be apart of family life. Or they can simply not. We have family we see around other family that we can’t see and we make it work. Some of them we just don’t see at all and that’s fine too.