Anyone else getting over a relationship breakup?

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Old member of OLD threads which helped me loads. Now I need a version for getting over the end of relationship. Anyone else in the same boat?

Heartbreak and loneliness has hit in waves today. I miss so much but know I'm forgetting the bad.

Eugh mine literally lives around the corner too. He moved here from further north which when we were together seemed so convenient and the relationship had so much potential. Turned out he moved here to be closer to his dominatrix .

@TheThingOnTheIcehave you been split up long? Day 5 for me today and still feel anxious which I know is to be expected. Wish I stopped checking my phone though and reading old messages.

my brain can’t understand how 2 days before he couldn’t wait to see me etc and then bam the blow of breaking up entered his depressed mind!

It’s been 5 months for me
some days I’m fine and others I really struggle . I’m still so angry and confused . I had the audacity to ask why he had used bondage tape and he tore my head off. I walked out and that was that . He’d been talking about moving into together the week before.
haven’t seen him but saw his parents a few days ago.

I feel the same way after 12 years, cannot imagine after 20... I honestly can't imagine my life without him, and can't understand how I already have only seem him once in the past 2 months.

@TheThingOnTheIce @Orchidlie22 we live 5 mins apart in the same village, he moved out of our home :(

I bumped into him 4 weeks ago tomorrow, and we spoke for half hour, but I was in tears for most of it. It was awfully upsetting. Now I stay home on weekends in case he's out nearby. I hate that.

I moved away 80 miles to avoid this. It must be horrible. I ran into my ex husband in the supermarket before I moved. It was so weird, like meeting a colleague. Cried my eyes out afterwards.

I just can't bear it that the messages we have are just so cold now, and admin related to do with the house etc. How can we have been so close, and intimate for so long and now not even a 'how are you?' it is heartbreaking. I miss him so much. I feel like I don't even know who he is anymore.

I’m still only a few days broken up and already he is like another person and it id weird that just a week ago, we were chatting/ laughing, sharing a bed to suddenly now like talking to a stranger . The man I knew had gone, and been replaced. tears just come out of nowhere, and for now I can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel, just sadness and grieving for the futurr I have had taken away from me.

I can't get my head around that either. The person who I have been most intimate with, who knows more about me than anybody else in the world, and vice versa, is now basically a stranger that I have nothing to do with, I can't process this.

It’s happened to me a few times . Worse one was only 15 months relationship but almost killed me. Just ghosted after banging on about marriage a week earlier . We worked in the same place so I still had to see the twat. He was engaged to someone else in the office with a year . It’s utterly mind boggling .

I do wonder what they think will be so much better. Having spent 32 years with someone who has then decided he can't stand the sight of me and now complains to the kids that he's lonely. No shit sherlock. The grinding loneliness is killing me. I don't know anyone in this town and all my friends are married. I don't know where I fit anymore.

My situation is tricky - my ex bf is severely unwell with depression and decided to end the relationship I feel so he no longer has to show up for me as he can’t as so unwell. I think he probably feels relieved we’re no longer together. However he has admitted to having no feelings about anything, not even his children which is desperately sad x

yes its hard , how can they be so brutal. I told him he has broken me and ruined any chance of happiness for me again as the way he has done it, means I will never trust anyone else again or let anyone get close, any future relationships would be doomed from the start. Also I said it would have been easier if he left 15 years or more ago when I had time on my side to maybe start again. Best of all is he thinks we can be friends almost.

Recent breakup for me - only just confirmed after a few weeks of knowing it was probably over. Sad thing is we both love each other but both have different long term views. She prefers a more relaxed relationship and I want the 'real thing', more time together and a view to moving in together at some point.

Annoying thing is that our paths will often cross and we both care for each other. We know that we dont want to split but I am not happy with it not being full on and she not happy with knowing I want that! Would be a lot easier if one of us cheated or really hated each other!