so lonely

[HorsieTwinkleToes]

So lonely and would love a relationship whats the best app to find a man looking for a long term relationship? i watch a SM couple and they just seem to have such a lovely relationship i want that for myself but where can you find a man thats actually serious? any particular sites that are better as a single parent?

I'm on POF at the moment and just been ghosted. I suppose one day the planets align and bingo.

The dating sites, are all much the same but l've heard Tinder, Bumble and Hinge mentioned most frequently. You could have a read of the Dating thread on here to get some insight.

thanks i think ive seen that thread but its a lot to read through and im not good at keeping up with big threads.

I think anything that is free will get all sorts of guys . Maybe Match.com where there is a small fee might attract more serious men. Good luck

Been a while now since I used dating apps but out of the free apps I would say bumble as it gives the women more control over who she talks too.tinder and Badoo tend to be more for hookups so if your looking for something serious I would avoid those.

Something like match or e harmony will probably increase your chances of finding someone who's likely to be more inclined for serious dating as those are paid apps.good luck

my sister joined eharmony and said there was hardly any men on there and she ended up stuck in a years contract with them which they wouldnt let her cancel. i dont like that bumble women have to message first (i know most women like that but i dont) will try the others though thanks

I actually think it's just the luck of the draw - all of them are packed with catfish and time wasters, but there are some good men on there too, and you just have to weed them out. I met my current boyfriend on Tinder, and we have been together years on and off! It's just a numbers game really.

Another possibility for meeting people can be people from your past (old school/university/work colleagues) on social media such as Facebook? I have had relationships like this, and know plenty of people who got together this way. It's easy enough - if a guy you remember liking posts something that implies he is single, send a personal message to him commenting on it (maybe with a pretext such as asking for advice about a relevant topic or something) and go from there.....

yeah i think you are right about luck, no one from the past i would be interested in.

Seriously it's not hard to message first!

"Hi, how are you? I see you've got a photo from your visit to abc".

Format is "Greeting, question/comment about something from the profile".

If you're reticent about having to do the first message, perhaps OLD isn't for you? Because it's only going to get more difficult from there.

no i no but i dont want to, each to their own though

I met my Partner on POF been together five months now and it’s going well. I messaged him first never expected a reply but it was worth the risk. Good luck

I use uk free dating, suits my needs, met my current, long term platonic pal/holiday companion there. Yes you do get the ONS seekers there but they’re easily sussed out.

I use bumble and I all hate messaging first. But if you use prompts “where are you travelling next?” Then men can reply to those instead which initiates the conversation. I’m on hinge too but it’s a lot of the same men - the filters don’t seem as strong though I get a lot from younger men :/