Why does my DH think he’s perfect?

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In many ways he is great but is worst flaw is his at times he is incredibly thoughtless and/or selfish. When I feel hurt by this he 1000% refuses to accept he is anything less than a perfect DH. His behaviour is madding.

Probably because he is and has a dick.

I usually find this is a result of being brought up by parents who have the "my child can do no wrong/not my little diddykins" attitude.

The moment they do something wrong and you point it out they're like "excuse me? Moi?!! You must be mistaken"

It's infuriating but hopefully he can learn to take some accountability and listen to you about how his behaviour makes you feel.

Cos he's male and probably has a mummy who gave him a golden boy complex

He doesn't sound great at all

Because, as a society, we train women to expect they are in the wrong and men dont get socialised like that. Add a lack of imagination and voila.

We need more context. My husband cannot take responsibility for his actions or words, and he is always referring to blame, but that is rooted in other things like RSD, ADHD and childhood trauma.
give more detail and more general red flags and we may be able to help.