Living arrangements

[Makingdobadly]

So I’m slowly coming round to the idea that the best thing I can do for myself is to leave my 18 year relationship. Anyone got any success stories of how amicable it has been?
Has anyone separated but stayed living together in different rooms for example? I really don’t want to be away from the children 50% of the time, I worry how they will deal with the upheaval of two new houses as we would have to sell house we’re currently in. But then if we stay living in same house it won’t really feel like we’re separated? Feel like I’ve been doing that for the last few years on and off as it is!

My partner's parents did this. For years. Reportedly it was hellish, especially when they started going on dates, leading to jealousies, horrendous rows etc etc.

How old are the children? Is he really going to want shared custody?

Mmm yeah that was what I was imagining tbh… not that I want to date or even think about it right now, it just seems less than ideal. Affordability wise though it seems most logical.

He would 100% want 50/50 I can’t imagine him settling for less.

Do you have a seperate room? What does he say about it?

No we don’t, we could convert the playroom into a downstairs room though quite easily! I guess that’s the issue really, we’re not exactly communicating the best right now, very much in avoidance stage of everything!