Husband snapchats his friends wife

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My husband last year was snap chatting our neighbour until I found out etc etc he said it was only snaps of nothing. But he also snapchats his friends wife this past few years I’m also friends with her and didn’t think anything of it. But since last year I’m now getting really annoyed by it.
he said it’s only silly snaps and she’s happily marrried. Now last nite he hid the snaps cause he said I would go mad. But I see the snaps cause I can login to his account and he’s doesn’t no. And she sends him snaps like for attention and if he responds she replies in 2 seconds.
it’s just that I honestly feel she has a thing for him. Am I over reacting? I just think why would u message your best friends wife?

He sounds a bit weird…

General rule of thumb personally is that if it’s something to be hidden, it’s something you shouldn’t be doing. So he knows full well you’d not appreciate him messaging another woman this way, and I guess you need to decide where your line in the sand is.
A grown man has no business acting like a silly teenager and sending snaps of ‘nothing’, next you’ll be telling us he cares about ‘streaks’

Do you really need us to tell you this is just weird and off, OP?

I'm not surprised you aren't happy about him needing the attention of other women.
What does his friend think about his DW and your H's close relationship?

Do you think she has a thing for him or that he has a thing for her?
If it’s the former then I think you can have an open conversation with him about this telling him you feel uncomfortable as you think she has a thing for him so best not to snap / WhatsApp her about anything other than arrangements etc in case she gets the wrong idea. If he’s generally a decent/ honest/ loyal DH then he should see that from your point of view and reign it in to protect your feelings / your marriage even if he doesn’t agree that she does.
If you think he has a thing for her than that’s a bit more problematic as he has a vested (albeit wrong) interest in carrying on. A similar but more pointed conversation. Again if he has your marriage’s best interests at heart then the end result should be the same.

Is Snapchat more of a concern for you than say WhatsApp because the messages disappear or is it that they are in contact in this way at all?

Agree that if it’s not something he is comfortable showing you or his best friend then whatever he is sending the wife is inappropriate. It may be wrong because of the content I.e. flirty or sexual or it may be wrong because it’s mundane stuff on a constant basis building up intimacy that they don’t want their partners to know about.

Either way it’s a betrayal to you and his friend. I would be telling him this. If he disagrees I would suggest you say you will ask his best friend how he feels.

What's streaks?

From what I've gathered from my teen DC it counts each day you Snapchat a certain person without a day missed as a "streak" so its some sort of accomplishment to get a lot of days in a row.

It’s always the same story. I’m guessing this woman is reasonably attractive? They never do these things with other blokes or women who are conventionally unattractive.

People who use snapchats are dodgy as. Snapchat and disappearing messages are designed so there is no evidence of words that should not have been exchanged.. and it's a 2-way street.

He’s hiding snaps from you because he thinks you’ll go mad, you can log in without him knowing to see what is being sent. That itself is messed up! The fact you think she has a thing for him shouldn’t really matter it’s your DH actions that should bother you. I know if my DH thought someone had a thing for him he certainly wouldn’t be entertaining it and acting like a teenager sending snaps. Why is she so comfortable messaging him? Because he allows and encourages it

I am a guy who have female friends. I message my best friend (F) weekly (ish). I have a wife, and I am good friends with her friend's wife also. So, I will always say being friendly is fine. BUT. Any one of my messages to anyone, or any message I am being sent by any of these people my could always see, if she wanted to, there is absolutely nothing to hide, no funny business.
Your situation however ends with "hiding messages". If it needs to be hidden, there is something dodgy going on. So yeah, definitely not normal. (Unless it's about organising a birthday surprise for you, but somehow I have a feeling it is not the case..)

You say you can login and see anyway? to me it seems dodgy especially if you aren’t included and getting the same messages, doesn’t seem right to message his mates wife, but I guess she looks prettier than his mate to Snapchat, and with the neighbour, it stopped when you found out which also sounds dodgy.

Also his friends wife saves pictures of us when I put them on Snapchat stories. It’s very weird.