Eye rolling

[ByLemonFish]

My husband has an awful habit of eye rolling when im speaking. We went through a very difficult time a year ago, he went for counselling and things improved drastically although he never talked to me about counselling sessions.
On Valentines day he bought me so many beautiful flowers and chocolates and we went out for dinner
BUT this eye rolling is driving me mad. This morning I got really annoyed with him (probably because im not sleeping well). Ive tried talking calmly to him about it before but he denies he's doing it.
I just feel deep down we're back to where we were this time last year but he doesn't want to admit it.

Does he do it when other people are talking? Are there any other things that he denies doing when you comment on them? What was the difficult time last year about, and why did he go for solo rather than couple counselling?

Have you set a boundary about it?

I might tell him I won't stay in the room if you do it during a conversation, then if it happens again, get up and walk away.

Otherwise he can flash you that disrespect consequence free.

I haven't noticed him doing it when other people are talking.
He decided to go for solo counselling after speaking to our GP, he took anti depressants but stopped after about 2 months.
Last year things weren't good, he said "the love has died". I was making plans to leave even though financially this is almost impossible and that's when he said he was feeling depressed and contacted GP.
Tbh I don't think things really did improve.
I told him this morning its such a disrespectful thing to do

Yes I've said before "im leaving the room"
But it makes no difference. He either gets annoyed or apologises but the eye rolling goes on . I just find it so disrespectful as if what I say is so unimportant

Yeah men blame everything on their unique brand of "male depression". Of course he can stop himself from doing this. It's such a horrible thing to do to someone. Is he Kevin the Teenager? Ask him outright if he does it to everyone - his boss, his mother, his mates. Bet I know the answer OP. He isn't going to change because he doesn't want to, and he doesn't think you're worth it.

At this stage it is meant to be disrespectful. I wouldn't say anything though, just leave the room.

Sorry you're putting up with this x

Yes I've asked him before. Im really angry and this happened at 7am today
Im done with it now.

Thank you xx
Yes Im done. I have respect for myself even if he has none for me

He sounds awful OP it’s such a disrespectful thing to do yes

Sometimes I think we carry on and try again (fully recognise the trying again for 12 months) and then they do something that is just beyond irritating and the switch just goes of "do you know what, I'm just done". And that sounds exactly where you are.