Partner contacting women on sex sites

[Ontheedge24]

My partner, now ex has been going on various chat sites, engaging with various women asking them if they want sex. When he got a response he was very graphic with what he wanted to do to them and it included their massive boobs.
He was very aware of 2 hangups I have and those are the 2 things he has focused on in all of his chars.
He has given his number out in a few chats as well.

In the past he has visited escorts lots of times, it didn't bother me, however I have found out that through our relationship he has searched for them. He worked away and looked for them there, yet he swears he hasn't done anything.

Things have been rocky for a while and we had been living apart but he kept declaring his love etc etc and then the next hour would be on these sites or messaging his ex wife.

He cant see my point that he has cheated, he said it was just a load of rubbish.

He hasn't been on one chat site, they are 10+ and he didn't tell me. Said because it was a load of rubbish.

I finished it 6 months ago, got confirmation on my birthday and couldn't take anymore. He wouldn't admit anything, was so vile to me, and when I was breaking in pieces I found out he was asking girls out, asking them to show him their you know what's. He didn't want to know.

After 8 weeks I ventured out, shakily, he was out, then he wanted to know me and has been going between love bombing me to bring a nasty spiteful man trying to blame me

I'm going to end up having another breakdown
I don't know what to do. If I.block him he contacts my daughter and then threatens to tell personal information to my family which i don't want them to know

What should I do?

He sounds absolutely vile and you have 100% made the right decision here. I think you know this too.
Block him. And if he persists call the police.
Focus on rebuilding your life away from the cretin. A new hobby? A project?

Dump him, if he says things to your family say he's just vindictive and lying. He doesn't love you or if he thinks he does it's the sort of love you are better off without. To much drama and distress..

Thank you. I know I need to block him. I can feel myself getting poorly again when I see his messages. Since my breakdown I seem to constantly pull my stomach in and out and I can't stop it

This is one of many, but it's this particular chat that haunts me everyday. How can he say it wasn't cheating? It's disgusting. I stupidly still love him but can never take him back

You have to emotionally disengage from his cheating. That's in the past and has no relevance to the problem at hand. The more you focus on it, the more it clouds your judgement and gets you pulled into unnecessary discussions.
The real issue here is that he is harassing you. That's what you have to deal with. Block immediately warn your family and your daughter to do the same. If contact persist from a new number, make a police report.

What do you expect from a man who visits prostitutes? He's disgusting.

Block him, and get your daughter and the rest of your family to block him too. Tell them that he's being vindictive and nasty, and has threatened to lie about you if you know he has no evidence of the personal information.
Tell him you'll call the police if he continues. Maybe contact 101 for advice?

Thank you. I did call the police last year on him. I let him off on one occasion when he used my key safe to come into my house in the middle of the night. He was convinced I had someone here. I had only been out of hospital for 2 nights, spaced out to Heck. Luckily my daughter was on holiday so wasn't here. Mind you she would have shot out of her bedroom and sorted it

Is he your daughter's father? I would block him and speak to family and friends for support. It sounds like you are vulnerable and struggling with your mental health too, can you speak to your GP?

You need to go to the police again.

You are a very vulnerable woman on her own and he is an abusive, coercive, dangerous man.

No thankfully

Well he is your ex now so block

You need to break the cycle and get away from this terrible man. Do you have support in real life? As someone else mentioned if he attempts to bad mouth you just say he’s a very vindictive man and shut it down.

he is not helping your mental health issues. You may feel more free by not having to worry about him cheating.

I'm under the care of the local mental health team. I am struggling so much. I had escaped my daughters father, got her through cancer and then met the man of my dreams which turned out to be my breaking point as he is rhe devil

@UpDownAllAround1 wish it was as easy as blocking him. I've tried it before. He contacts my daughter then or comes to the house at random times. It's mental. He's supposed to be going away to work in a few weeks, I really hope he does!

Then he is harassing you. Tell him by a message not to come
to the house. Then go to the police if he does

Why doesn't your daughter block him?
Why don't you call the police when he comes to your house?

Change the code on the key safe. Block him.

@Catza I changed it straight away. If he cant get hold of me, He keeps threatening to tell my family certain things about me that I don't want them to know

I know, you said that. I am just not understanding why your daughter and your family don't block him as well. He should not be able to contact anyone in your circle and it is achievable by everyone blocking him on their phones and social media channels. Why haven't they done that?

@Catza I've blocked him abd my daughter hasn't yet but will if he starts. Sadly she still loves him, he's been more of a Dad to her than her actual Dad.
It's just the threats that he's making of telling my family certain things about me. Which i told him in confidence. He's a pile of shit