I crazy for deep diving Ep Files?

[BestieNo1]

As a woman with a researching past and mum of two I have unfortunately been gripped by the unveiling of the sick people we are being controlled by via Epstein files.

Am I crazy? I am reading and watching stuff even though I have a decent life and business.

My Partners parents are falling apart and may be developing dementia after a business deal went to absolute sh!t.

He says he never wants me to mention or talk about them and offers no emotional support or chat although when it comes to his parents who I have supported physically for the past 20 years with little help for our children all this time think less than 10 times babysitting in 20 years.

he says I don’t support or empathise with him but he expected huge emotional support from me about people who I have little connection with unsurprisingly.

Am I focussing on all the wrong things?
Am I the selfish one?
Is he?

please help, I just don’t know any more xxx

This doesn’t make much sense honestly. Well I’ve had couple of wines so might be me

What?

I don’t understand the main point of your thread? Is it that yummy sre so obsessed with the EF that you can’t support your family

Are you crazy for following a news story? No.

The other bits seem non sequiturs.

What doesn't your dh want you to talk about? The Epstein files or his parents?

I'm sober and it makes no sense to me either

This makes no sense at all.

A placeholder for when OP returns to explain.

Is it that you feel your home life is lonely that you’ve become obsessed with the Epstein files?

Epstein may be a vile cunt .. but he has a percentage in the dementia and/ or mental and physical health ?

What I think the OP is saying.

She is spending a lot of time deep diving into the files. She’s upset by what she reads and wants emotional support from her husband.He has told her he is sick of listening about the Epstein files and wants her to STFU.

He has unwell parents, OP has emotionally supporters him when he’s fretting about them, she thinks she has little connection with his parents so seems to be comparing his needing support for dealing with personal family issues, to her needing support about what she’s reading in the files.

He has told her she shows no empathy, sounds like he’s told her she needs to focus on her actual life and be thankful for what they have and spend less time reading Epstein stuff.

She is asking if she really has been putting her attention in the wrong place and wants to know if she is wrong.

So sorry for any confusion and thanks for commenting so quickly.
I am really upset and disturbed by Epstein files release as I have two children and well, how could anyone not be horrified?
My husband’s parents are in decline so he says he has no headspace and I am mad for focussing on that as he is going through grief.
He blames me for everything that goes wrong but no credit and undermines me, when I’ve done great stuff and been so hard working, emotional punch bag and basically did everything with the kids alone as he was away working for prob 1st 15 years and then didn’t do much parenting at all.
When he does “praise me” it comes out as snide remarks as his way of giving me credit for all my hard work and successes I have contributed, but it’s in such a tone I want to punch him, so it really backfires as it doesn’t feel genuine but very forced. It reads like <I will say this to the family in front of her about what my wife does and contributes, but I’m doing it under sufferance cos she’ll be p’d off if I don’t>
IYKWIM?
He has shown zero empathy to me our whole lives together and I’ve just got on with it ie moving far away from family so no support system, getting fired (blamed me but it was because of links to him), having low moods after kids as I was 24/7 parent, exhausted, having 1st miscarriage, having 2nd miscarriage, finding my real father, losing my best friends through one running off with my other friend’s husband, going NC with my sister etc etc.
He offered minimal support and that I should just get on with it.
Now his parents are in need, it’s all my fault again as I’m not giving him enough emotional support and leeway when he directs his unhappiness and anger towards me, which the kids are picking up on and copying. Am gutted. 😿

Yes

your partner sounds like a right prick who doesn’t love you and just wants a whipping boy.

id put your energy into a plan to leave. start getting ducks in a row.

Its not just You

Sounds like you have conflating issues here, the Epstein files are not the main ones.

I think if you’re enjoying (for want of a better word) reading the files, that’s entirely your prerogative.

I would not want to know details, nor listen to you discussing it. As long as you’re not expecting others to do the same or even talk about it with you, it’s fine. But the fact you state you’re really ‘upset and disturbed’ by what you’re reading, implies you should step away.

I am really upset and disturbed by Epstein files release as I have two children and well, how could anyone not be horrified?

There are a lot of awful things that have happened in the last few decades. Yeah it's awful but tbph the Epstein debacle doesn't even break into my top ten of 'most awful'.

Your level of obsession with the Epstein files and specifically the way you're conflating it with your own real-world issues and problems - but don't seem to realise that - isn't normal op.

Expecting your oh to provide regular 'support' to you over what you're choosing to read isn't normal or healthy.

Leave the files well alone and focus on your actual life.

Ok thanks for all your comments. I was in a situation where I felt very unsafe and unsupported after a man came onto me strongly and it scared me to death so these files really trigger and resonate with me as I want this issue sorted once and for all for those poor 🧒 👶 xx

we had Michael Jackson, Jummy Saville, muslim gangs and now this...but why it seems only this stings people so much