Ive made a few threads on here about my marriage thats is struggling horrifically after I had a psychotic breakdown nine years ago. it devastated our lives completely. one of the hard thigns that blindsided me completely is that before my breakdown we had only once had a full on argument (which was related to my DH making things difficult for me with my abusive father).
I see so many threads on here about difficult interactions over tiny things like hanging a wet duvet on a maiden causing a difficult interaction. we never ever had any of this kind of interaction. we also never argued aobut bigger things, even if they were thigns that were hard for me, like not resign a birthday gift or my DH letting me take the mental load of everything. and we never even argued about difficulties and differences in regard to finances or not discussing properly issues around having children.
this is one of the reasons that I thought our marriage is perfect. we could also talk for hours and hours and never run out of things to talk about ever as we are both very intellectual and academics and just very like minded in many things - like overall vision and goals for our life. And then when I got unwell so severely everythign fell apart. but one thing especially, some much anger came out and it was like everything id ever wanted to say but didnt just came out.
I know im seriously unwell so my judgement is skewed btu what do people think about the no conflict and no difficult interactions? I just thought we were very good together and my DH says he thinks we had brilliant communication whereas I would now say the opposite I think.
Any thoughts?