Relationship

[Tbird5]

So , it's not my situation, its my friends. I've spoken to her about my concerns but im not sure she's listening.
She's been 'seeing' this bloke for four years on and off. Every time she'd get too close he'd go cold on her. It was always never wanted a relationship, wasn't over his ex, his life was too busy, just excuses in my opinion. Me and another friend were always there to pick up the peice's., always will be, she's my best friend. Few months would go past then they're back to chatting and meeting up again. And now they're in a relationship.
He shares two kids with his ex and he's told my friend loads of lie's about her. Like she's controlling, she's crazy and all the usual lie's. I know the ex but not very well. Im quite good friends with a couple of her friends and they say she's really nice, quite down to earth. Completely opposite to how he's describing her. I've told all this to my friend and she's just not interested in any of it, she trusts him! How can I get her to see him for what he is!? Or do i just wait and be there for her when it all goes to pots? Or do you think it could work and im too sceptical?

Sorry for the typos. Im on my phone and at work.

I’d be there to offer support when her life with him comes crashing down around her ears yet again as it inevitably will do. Sadly your friend is with a master manipulator and these types can be very plausible. You cannot help her see sense unless you present her with hard evidence of his behaviour she cannot deny. And that is unlikely.

You've told her what you think, you won't change her mind sadly. You just have to be there when it all goes tits up.

Thank you. Im extremely cynical about those kind of situation, only because I've never seen them work out. And also think if you like someone, you'd want a relationship with them from beginning. He knows how my friend feels about him, from day one