Is this normal?

[Goingoutofmymind90]

Sorry if this is long but I need to ask is this normal?
I have been in a relationship for 5 years and have 1 child.
Things haven’t been right between my partner and me for about 3 years, we haven’t had sex for about that time.
Now my issue is everytime we have a argument which is quite a lot at the moment he runs to his mum and tells her everything makes me out to be such a bad person and calls me loads of names like bitch, I’m toxic and I’m always having a go at him but that is far from the truth. The truth is, he is a nightmare to live with, always moaning, never cleans up after himself, calls me names and has a go at me nearly everyday, he shouts all the time at our child and calls our child names. The min I defend myself when he is having a go, I’m the bad one and everything is my fault. In the 5 years I have know him, he has never said sorry even when he is wrong and never takes any responsibility for anything. None of his family like me and I think it’s because he has painted this picture of me as a bad person which I’m not. His mum is so toxic, bad mouths me, calls me names but never confronts me about any of it. She makes out she is this perfect person but she has never been there for any of her kids when they were growing up but picks fault with my parenting. She is the mother in law from hell, there is people in her family who have done bad things but everyone likes them but then there’s me who has done anything but I’m not liked.
I know this is partner fault but my mother in law is hell, she has overstep boundaries when it comes to my parenting, she doesn’t respect me and talks down to me all the time. And I do stick up for myself.
I don’t know what to do anymore.

His toxic mother is the least of this situation- I think you should focus on your toxic parter.

You should know exactly what to do - leave. What value does this abuser bring to your life?

Agree with PP - his mother is the least of your problems. Why are you wasting your life on this useless twat?

Give your child the gift of not growing up in an abusive home by sending this wanker back to mummy for good.

Your partner is the problem, not your MIL. I mean obviously the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, but what you've got here is a lazy entitled man-child who runs to mummy and badmouths you. Of course she believes you.

And your priority needs to be the way he treats your child. It's not OK for him to verbally abuse your child.

Get rid of the guy.

I’m definitely planning on leaving just got to think of a way out, money wise etc. I know my partner is the problem but so is the mil because I have seen messages between them both where they are both bad mouthing me. Mil don’t seem to think her darling boy can’t do no wrong. He definitely needs to grow up!

you’re describing my DH here too. MIL is fine with me but she’s to blame for the way he is now. It’s awful

Presumably he's a full grown adult man.

At a certain point he became responsible for who he is and how he behaves.

Man child!

You really need this manchild to go from your life.
Life will be so happier for you,
Dont be afraid. Find your inner you to end this absolutrly diabolical relationship

He shouts all the time at our child and calls our child names.

@Goingoutofmymind90, you must get your child away from this absolute brute who verbally and emotionally abuses him as well as you. This kind of soul-crushing trauma is greatly damaging your child and will have far-reaching ramifications in his life and relationships.

With respect, you have been writing about this horror of a man for years and had a nearly identical thread about a year ago. Please access the support you need to make an exit plan and follow through.

No not normal or healthy and sounds like it turned bad very quickly, you've spent more time unhappy than happy together. Not good for your child to witness either.