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Using private browsing- red flag?

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WallyHilloughby · 13/02/2026 19:34

Have had lots of arguments over the years about husbands porn habit. Our sex life is not the best. Things really are not great at the moment so I had a sneaky look at his phone whilst he was asleep. On safari he seems to have enabled private browsing- so it won’t track anything and will only have one tab open at any one time.
would you think this is a red flag?

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WallyHilloughby · 18/02/2026 11:44

FrootyCider · 17/02/2026 10:09

It's a separate issue to your sex life. It might be that he's having a wank, but he'd do that whether you were having sex or not. I would park the issue because it's not going to help and it's rude to snoop.

Maybe he's feeling as frustrated as you because of the sex life. Maybe it's performance anxiety. Maybe he feels disconnected from you. Do you hold his hand, snog him, give him compliments, pick up lines, cuddle, be intimate without expecting full sex? I had a similar problem to you with DH. His sex drive is much lower than mine. I found that when I start to take care of the little intimacies, things really improved.

Unfortunately I’ve tried pretty much everything over the years. Another source of frustration- I have to be the fixer, the doer, the sorter

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Bakest · 19/02/2026 10:15

Kepler22B · 14/02/2026 12:48

I use DuckDuckGo which is permanently a private browser. Blocks lots of cookies and annoying adverts (especially those on here!). No history stored etc…

There is also a flame button that wipes out everything, logs out of websites and stops autofilling in website etc…

Nothing dodgy about it, it is just a better browser.

My ‘D’H used this for his porn addiction.

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WallyHilloughby · 20/02/2026 12:00

@Bakestcan you tell me more about it? Did you question him? Did he ever admit it? Are you still together?

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