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Has anyone left an abusive relationship and found happiness?

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Sophie12312 · 13/02/2026 17:13

My ex was abusive and we split 10 years ago. We parent fine ok but kids see him sporadically and arent fussed if they see him these days. He has a short fuse so i tend to walk on eggshells and limit contact if im honest. But i do wonder whether anyone would ever want to date me given my backstory. It's been 10 years now - i did date someone briefly in between but he couldnt handle things as he thought we should have nil contact given how he had behaved before. I cant see myself ever meeting anyone who would be ok with this.

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Yogabearmous · 13/02/2026 17:17

Yes. I left an abusive relationship and raised my dd alone, managing nightmare contact arrangements with a crazy ex who was controlling and nasty . I am now married , had two more children and my dd from my first relationship has grown up and is no contact with crazy ex.
life is wonderful now. Keep the faith OP. There is life after abuse I promise .

OneNewEagle · 13/02/2026 21:47

Yes, just keep going you will get there.

Sophie12312 · 14/02/2026 05:25

@Yogabearmous @OneNewEagle thank you for replying. It just feels hopeless. Ex is ok with me but very short fused and so always on eggshells. Kids aren't fussed about seeing, so would quite happily never bother. Deep down im scared of him. I just thought after separating for so long, id find some sort of happiness but I feel its a constant state of loneliness or fear.

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