My daughter is 21 and has a boyfriend who she has been with for about a year. He is lovely and she appears very happy. He lives about 40 minutes away so he traveled back and forth to see her a lot at the beginning. He has been staying overnight at our house for a few months now. He would come to ours, shower and eat tea with us. They would also go out and buy their own bits to cook. This became more often.
I didn’t mind until recently. He lives with his mother who he pays 200 a month. She lives with her partner and his son. His mother has left her job and fallen out with her partner so went to stay with her parents for a few weeks. She called my daughters boyfriend and asked for rent money and asked for an extra 100 as she was in her over draft.
It’s absolutely none of my business and it would not bother me but he stayed at ours for the whole week she had first left her partner (apparently she’s going back).
Anyway, he stays from the Wednesday to Sunday. All bills have gone up and I know it’s not going to make a huge difference, I suppose it’s the principle.
I have been a single parent for many years and I went back to study to become a nurse because I knew, I’d never afford to live otherwise. It was the hardest thing I have ever done with 3 children. Their dad is absent and I don’t have a supportive family so had to work and pay childcare along side study. It was so hard financially but 4 years ago, I was able to buy on my own after 10 years if struggle, financially and physically. I won’t bore you with what I have had to manage personally over that time but it was hard. I still have only one wage and still paying off some debt, but I can pay my bills. I have worked really hard at work to become more senior and this year we are actually going on holiday.
He's a lovely boy and I feel a bit sorry for him.
I’m posting because if this was a boyfriend of mine, I wouldn’t allow it. I was wondering what your thoughts are?