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Can you give me an advice?

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SODAhyun · 12/02/2026 16:06

Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago. He said that he doesn’t want me anymore , that he doesn’t love me anymore and that we can’t be nothing, just friends. I said that i don’t want to be his friend because i still have feelings for him and this is impossible. So he blocked me everywhere and we went no contact. After 14 days he sent to me a random sticker … i said to him “why you’re sending me a message if you said that you don’t wanna talk with me anymore?” and he said “i said this when you said that we can’t be friends… i just want to be sure that you’re alive”. What does it mean? What’s the best answer to give? To be honest… i still love him and i want him back… but i don’t know … maybe i was thinking to not answer me so he will start to chase me

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HeadyLamarr · 12/02/2026 16:08

Block him. You don't need his game playing nonsense messing with your head.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 12/02/2026 16:10

Block him on all channels. He will mess with your head if you allow him to do so. Exs are exs often for good reason and there is really no reason for the two of you to be in contact. All he’s doing by messaging you in the manner of a teenager is stopping you from
movong on.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?, And please drop this notion of yours that if you do not answer he will start to chase you. That is teenage love mindset crap which does you no favours .

Firefly100 · 12/02/2026 16:14

The best answer is no answer. Don't engage with him. He told you he didn't want you anymore and that he didn't love you anymore. Please believe him. I understand you still have feelings for him and want him back but we can't always have what we want unfortunately and he does not want you. Your future self (and self respect) will thank you if you block all communication with him right now and accept it is over.

PrincessOfPreschool · 12/02/2026 16:15

If he starts to chase you just for the fun of our, he'll get bored once he's got you again and dump you. Don't mess with your own feelings.

I wound reply briefly, "I'm fine. No need to worry about me. " and then block him on everything.

Brightbluesomething · 12/02/2026 18:18

He’s had two weeks of being single and presumably no sex when he thought he’d have loads and he’s trying to reel you back in to meet his needs. When he wants, on his terms.
Don’t let him. He told you he doesn’t love you so believe him. If you have further contact he’ll mess with your head and use you on the premise of being friends. Raise your standards and don’t go back to a man who has told you very clearly where he stands. Block him now to stop the games so you can heal.

Mumscanbeweird · 12/02/2026 18:19

Find someone who likes you.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 12/02/2026 18:20

Block and ignore him. That’s
the only way.

Nosdacariad · 12/02/2026 20:02

SODAhyun · 12/02/2026 16:06

Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago. He said that he doesn’t want me anymore , that he doesn’t love me anymore and that we can’t be nothing, just friends. I said that i don’t want to be his friend because i still have feelings for him and this is impossible. So he blocked me everywhere and we went no contact. After 14 days he sent to me a random sticker … i said to him “why you’re sending me a message if you said that you don’t wanna talk with me anymore?” and he said “i said this when you said that we can’t be friends… i just want to be sure that you’re alive”. What does it mean? What’s the best answer to give? To be honest… i still love him and i want him back… but i don’t know … maybe i was thinking to not answer me so he will start to chase me

He's keeping you as a back up in case he wants a shag.so sorry xxx

forgetitplease · 12/02/2026 20:25

Babes, honestly? It feels like he wants you to be broken hearted to me. That's game playing. To unblock you and see if you're "still alive"? What, he thinks you have crumbled up and died without him? Or worse...that you have ended it all because he is sooo very loveable and unliveable without? I don't think so, sweetheart. You don't deserve that kinda crud. I know it hurts like crazy. I know you miss him and just want him back. But block him on everything. He will unblock you again in a couple of days and realise that YOU have blocked HIM out of your life. Then reality will hit him. "Uh oh! She's not a crying, weeping mess and pining after me"! Totally his loss. He won't change even if he manipulates you into going back. This won't mean he really does love you or that he didn't mean the hurtful things he said. It just means that he panicked when he saw you weren't a snivelling wreck and had to prove to himself that he's so amazing that he could twist your emotions into going back with him. When people tell you who they are believe them. You WILL get stronger. You WILL get over it. And you WILL find happiness in the future and be loved by someone who deserves you. Time is your friend. Let it slide by. Let it heal you and wash away this has-not from you life.

Ljzjta · 12/02/2026 20:30

Avoid, block and ignore him. He’s just having a few doubts and as soon as you start up a conversation, he will likely ghost you. Just continue to move on.

WingBingo · 12/02/2026 21:40

Fabulous advice from @forgetitplease . Keep reading that back @SODAhyun as it’s very wise.

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