Any good dating apps for over 50’s?

[Lizziebenn]

Hi. I’m genuinely asking for a friend….I used Match .com and met my now partner 8 years ago so all good there. My friend is very nervous of trying online dating and asked me to help her suss it all out. I’ve recently googled reviews of Match.com and they are not good! Maybe things have changed as it’s 8 years since I was on that site
So any recommendations? My son has used Tinder but is that for the younger generation?
I’d appreciate any advice , thank you !

They're all much of a muchness. It's not the apps that's the problem.

Check out the Burned Haystack Dating Method on Facebook or Instagram. Careful filtering of profiles is more important than any particular app.

As a woman who is also over 50 I would say no, they’re all shit nowadays. Ourtime being specifically for over 50’s only is particularly grim

I’m 35, but I would say there are decent men on them, BUT they are few and far between. A significant proportion treat dating apps like a catalogue of free sex workers, lots are just straight up weird. You need to do a lot of filtering to find the few decent ones.

I wouldn’t say any is inherently better or worse though tbh it’s all about luck. The same type of men are on all of them and often have profiles across multiple apps anyway. I wouldn’t say tinder is just for younger people though.

I’m mid 40s and met some great people on Facebook dating. Plenty of people in their 50s on there

They seem to go, and go off, in waves. Having met my delightful dp 5 years ago (so during Covid) on Ourtime, I obviously think it’s ok. At 51 I was excitingly young on there and the fact that appealing profiles were few and far between kept my feet on the ground. I was on numerous others as well though, Hinge at that time was fairly new and quite good imo, but I felt quite old there. I’ve heard since then that Ourtime has gone particularly downhill.

I'm on Hinge and Match. Hinge has been a complete waste of money, no interest and no replies to any messages I sent, so definitely avoid Hinge. Match is very active, lots of likes, lots of men checking out your profile just don't expect much in the way of quality! Tell your friend to grow a thick skin, if she's lacking in confidence it can be brutal being constantly ignored when you message a guy! I've messaged at least a dozen and not one has replied!
I wish your friend lots of luck.

So true
The issue is the people on there, not the app
Also everyone has different things they are looking for. Some want relationship, some want hook up, some want casual long term and the problem is not everyone is honest about what they want so it is trying to work it out.
Tinder is defo the hookup one
Good luck

So true
The issue is the people on there, not the app
Also everyone has different things they are looking for. Some want relationship, some want hook up, some want casual long term and the problem is not everyone is honest about what they want so it is trying to work it out.
Tinder is defo the hookup one
Good luck

I met my now DH on Ourtime - 4.5 years ago, and we have been married for 4 years. He is a wonderful man and I consider myself blessed to have met him after being widowed- but I have to say I can across some absolute horrors while online dating, and I was shocked that at the age of 58 I was sent ridiculous pictures of elderly mens genitals, asked some very odd questions about my own body, and most definitely felt that virtually all the men I made contact with were just out for sex. (I also seemed to attract the attention of some really young guys, one was 21!! Younger than my own sons 🤣🤣)!
I was about to give up on the whole experience then I met my DH - so I guess what I’m saying is that there are a lot of arseholes out there but there really are some good ones too.
hope your friend meets someone lovely if she chooses to venture down the O.D path!

I was on hookup sites as well so the sex talk and dick pics only bothered me up to a point - at least you can block someone on a dating site, unlike a twat in a nightclub trying to force his erection into your arse.

The apps are very much the problem. MatchGroup owns Hinge, Tinder, Match and PoF.

I feel that they make an app, traffic drops off so they create another one and let the old ones die.

Match and PoF seem like they couldn't be bothered. Seems very difficult to find or match with people (unless paid for), the last update changed preferences to within a 269 mile radius! And even reducing it, I'm still being shown profiles from Belgium, France etc (seriously just show my own country).

Waste of time with the "Burned Haystack (£25.00 RRP available in all good bookstores)" if the apps are useless to start with.

You are not looking for 100 great people just 1

Best place to meet new people a hiking group. Was in one when I was younger and loads of people I knew met partners there. Youve got time to chat in an unrushed natural situation.

I didn't meet my wife there but did make some good friends

Surely sending naked photos is illegal, if not it should be. Surely the companies remove those people. It sounds horrible.

I met my chap online, had to filter out the oddballs but there was no sending of rude photos ever. That was a couple of decades ago though.

It is illegal to send unsolicited dick pics and the like.

I met my partner on Bumble. I’ve also had success with Facebook dating. I think it’s important to be clear in your profile what you’re looking for and also read their profiles carefully. I never had dodgy photos or sleazy comments.

I think the issue is since lockdown the apps have got steadily worse - that’s why friends who tried them pre Covid tell me.

Most people o hear about who met their partners online were several years ago - without wishing to sound too rude Ourtime really is the dregs now. I paid for a one month subscription and lasted a week. It really was like a rogues gallery of badly taken too close up mirror selfies taken in what appeared to be a pub toilet, very overweight pensioners topless in bed and the obligatory giant fish photos.

And it’s quite depressing men of that age still think ‘hey sexy’ or 👋 is the way to start a grown up conversation.

You’re very lucky. My profile clearly stated I was looking for an LTR and not interested in hook ups/casual and yet I was inundated with sleazy messages. All of my friends have had similar experiences and all given up

I came off the apps. I went on a few dates but nothing came from them. I have stayed in touch with one man though but he is a proper mummy’s boy at the age of 55! Never married, no kids either. Never took off but he messages me regularly but we never seem to have a conversation (lack chemistry). I’ve just moved house so busy with the unpacking at the moment. I might venture back in the better weather. I’m 54 next month so time is not on my side. However, my sister in law (widow, as my brother passed a few years ago) met a nice man on Match at the age of 67!! They have been seeing each other a good couple of years now and are going on holiday abroad next week for a fortnight. I live in hope.

I like hiking so I think what someone else suggested - join a hiking group - is better for me.

I had most success on Tinder last year when I was dating. Met some decent men on there in fact. Including the guy I'm still dating a year later. Who is lovely. I'm mid 50s as is he.

There is also a lot of trash to wade through but they can't send photos on Tinder so you won't get unsolicited dick pics through the app.

Does this apply to the women too?

Honestly the easiest answer is to try them all and start filtering out the apps on the basis of how you find them.

I think it's rare that anyone just uses one app. MatchGroup even deliberately give in-app adverts to import your account from one app into the other.

I know a young person who married off Tinder. I have to say I never used it because it seemed to be location based and I very definitely didn’t want to date a neighbour.

You can set your filters to whatever distance you want. I found it really user friendly tbh. I had filters as well for age.