Would you be a bit deflated!

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It's not a big thing, but for some unknown reason,today I felt slightly deflated! Our only daughter, aged 32,lives with us temporary. It was our 42nd anniversary in January. Husband & I do not make a thing about wedding anniversarys! We have always been chilled about things like that,but always get cards.Daughter, said sorry, I did not get you & Dad a card.She said she forgot? With social media, how would of she forgot? I would of thought she would have a Calendar,as she works remotely. Am I over thinking?

I wouldn’t be deflated, no, but we didn’t use to give anniversary cards to each other let alone from the kids. Different if it was a 40th anniversary I guess

I've never got my parents a card and they have been married to each other twice! I've always thought that anniversary cards are just for the couple to share between them - unless it's a big number and you're having a party or similar.

I wouldn't be deflated, because people do forget things even with the advent of modern technology. She didn't do it on purpose and she apologised.

I've never given a Wedding Anniversary card to anyone whose wedding I haven't attended, unless it's a special one . We also don't receive them from our adult children, and wouldn't expect one . I might be the odd one here , but when would you suddenly start buying your parents a Wedding Anniversary card , I feel it's a celebration for the two of you .

Yes you’re massively overthinking it. Why do you need congratulations cards?

Anniversary cards are just for the couple unless you're hosting a party

Why now if it was in Jan?

Jesus i can barely remember birthdays, xmas etc dont add anniversaries to the list! That's for the couples involved imo. If you invited me to your 40th do i'd get you a card.

My thoughts are it’s because she’s living with you again and you’re probably doing a lot for her and it would have been a nice gesture if she’d bought you a card …. thoughtful.

We’re very big on cards/presents/occasions in our family, but I’ve never heard of a wedding anniversary being celebrated by anyone other than the couple involved. I certainly wouldn’t expect anything from my adult dc about it, though they would never forget our birthdays. It just doesn’t involve them!

When I apologised to my mum about forgetting their anniversary her view was why should I remember an event that happened before I was born.
My own children never remember our anniversary and I've stuck by my mum's take on this.
Anyway, happy anniversary.

I’ve never once thought to give anyone a wedding anniversary card, even my parents. I’ve never even mentioned it. Don’t even know the date.

Youre being silly, especially if you don’t make a big thing of it yourselves

My Mum once had a go at me for not getting her and my Dad an anniversary card. I was completely mystified, I don't know anyone who gets their parents an anniversary card (unless it's a golden anniversary or something).

We're now almost half way though February and this happened in January? You really need to move on.

Yes you are overthinking

I don’t even know when my parents’ anniversary is or what time of year! My dc wouldn’t know ours I’m sure!

kindly, it's ridiculous to be deflated about others not acknowledging a special day for you and your husband that you don't even celebrate yourselves

but- why are you really frustrated with your daughter and/or husband?- that's the question these feelings are really inviting you to consider.

Gosh. I honestly believed anniversary cards were just something shared between the couple.

Anniversary cards are usually just between the couple, unless it’s a ‘big’ anniversary like Silver or Golden.

I have no idea when my parents wedding anniversary is and I was at their wedding as they didn’t get married until I was 10. YABU.

My parents eloped for their first wedding. Then got divorced when I was 10. I went to their second wedding when I was 26... we were talking about it the other day as my dad said to my mum: "Oh I think we've been married longer now than the first time! When was the second time we got married?" Neither of them could remember the date and neither could I!

My parents have been married for 47 years. The only anniversary card I've ever given them was for their ruby wedding. It's very strange to expect a card from your daughter for a random anniversary.

I always got my mum and dad a card & still take my mum flowers even though my dad has been gone for 10 years! But our adult sons don't get us cards, they do get us a gift or treat us to a meal out if it's a significant anniversary like our 25th or our 30th. I really wouldn't expect it and we don't make a big thing of anniversaries, we just get each other a card.

My god. DH and I barely remember our wedding anniversary. And you don't celebrate yours, but you're upset that you DD didn't? YABVU.