How to handle NC sibling?

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going on a family holiday in a few weeks to attend a wedding abroad (more distant relative), it’ll be siblings parents, cousins, aunts uncles etc. All staying in same place and sharing rooms for 10 days. One of my sisters is currently NC with me. She does this every few years, I think it’s a power game she uses. Could last a few months to a year. In that time she’ll lavish attention on other sibling. On top of that she’s done some stuff related to a jointly owned business recently that’s made me really angry (haven’t told her how angry I am).

need some advice on how to handle the hol please. She is very charming, everyone loves her whereas Im not and I struggle not to show my feelings on my face! I also struggle to do fake/pretend niceness. Cancelling hol not an option. TIA

Meet her energy and just blank her. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Stay around the family that is supportive and spend little energy on the rest of them.

Do you really care about the people who love your sister? If I was particularly fond of a certain relative, I might warn him/her in advance about what your sister is doing, if not then I would just brazen it out. Sod the lot of them. Ignore your sister right back.

I think grey rock is about the only thing you can do here if you’re determined to go, keep it as bland as possible. Also, extricate yourself from the business venture if possible and I would consider if you want to remain in contact with her if it’s something she does intermittently - that’s properly toxic behaviour - you can have your own boundaries that don’t involve contact with her.

Could you at least stay somewhere else so that you’re not with her all of the time?

If she is nc with you then how can she possibly attend the holiday and still be nc. They are mutually exclusive. If she was actually nc she would not be going if you were there. I would just be extra friendly to her to underline how stupid she is being, but that is just me. Probably more sensible to just ignore her unless she speaks directly to you

Don’t involve other people that is where people start to lose patience. You have a problem with your sister but clearly you enjoy the company of other family members. Focus on them. Understand that your sister’s worst behaviour comes out on you not them so they feel differently and just don’t give her energy.

Focus on the other people around, focus on being nice and pleasant and good company to them and enjoy yourself.

We’ve had this and have a great time with relatives because we recognise it is our problem not theirs.

Sorry old thread ! Deleted my post - doh!