I have been with my boyfriend for over 10yrs but over time we have grown distant no affection no intimacy I have addressed this numerous times to him at first he was apologetic and said he'd do better but then he slowly fell back into old ways so I try and hug him to be told im not in the mood (its just a hug) or if he does hug me its a half hearted hug like you'd give a friend thats the only way I can describe it he tells me to tidy do this do that when we are meant to be a team I feel like I do everything he does 10% i feel so alone I have no friends so I dont have anyone to talk to we have young kids 12, 8 and 6. If he wants intimacy its on his terms his way when it does happen straight after he will go back to games without giving me any self care he says im best at doing that and I'll leave you to it and will go back to what he was doing before he asked to lie down with me. He also cancelled our wedding said he didnt want to marry me anymore and we were to carry on the way things are. I told him tonight that im lonely I need a hug or affection anything he just pouted and said aww I might give you a hug later I said I wasnt joking i feel alone and neglected here he said your fine gave me another half harted hug and said have you showered i said yes he followed up with for once and then said when you have a minute can you put dishes away so I can do dishes. Any advice please im just slowly loosing my mind here and incredibly lonely.