NC as didn't want to be too outing.
Basically, I've been seeing a guy for a few years. Don't live together, no plans to.
We've had some hiccups.
He's very strange when it comes to emotional support: One time I told him a family friend had died, someone who was like an auntie to me for 35years and he just left the message on read and didn't acknowledge it.. Then hours later sent me a video clip or song, like didn't even acknowledge my sad news.
This seems to he a reoccurring theme.. I just don't think he can do emotions/emotional support.
I have health issues and am in chronic pain recently: he asked if I have pain relief, I explained that I don't really want to get into a cycle of depending on constant pain relief but I have methods I can use to ease symptoms.
I wrote a really vulnerable message: I was clearly upset and mentioned the pain bringing me to tears.
Guess what - he read it and again has said nothing at all, not a word.
I just find it really hurtful.
I've come to expect nothing from him emotionally - literally feel like I may as well speak to a brick wall. I won't bother sharing again, because he clearly doesn't care??
I am trying to ask myself what I want or need, and whilst my expectation is just disappointment.. It would be nice I guess to just have someone say 'that sounds painful, hope it eases' or just something kind.
I put so much effort into wishing him well, a good day, curiousity about his day etc and yet he only seems to care if I'm lighthearted fun and "fine".. If I'm not and I admit that, he seems to run a mile.
Is it too much to ask for someone to care about my well-being in the way I care about others?!